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You need to be a good influence on your child, including your adult child.

But what about the time that you might need to confront your daughter or son

about something you're seeing? I'm John Fuller, and with me to help figure this out is Dr. Danny

who heads our parenting team. And Danny, you are the parent of adult children. I've got all adult

children. Some advice, please. I see something, just speak to

maybe even a counseling relationship you've had where I see something as mom or dad, and I've got to

say it. It's a destructive habit. Well, John, the use of substances, whether it be alcohol or weed or you name it, that's a big one for

parents to have to confront with their adult kids. And, uh, do I have to though? I mean,

I don't have to. Okay. Okay. That's, that's a good correction. Thank you. However, it is

something that's destructive. And so to bring it up at least,

just say, hey, you're trying to, you're using certain things that may be destructive in your life.

And if it's a new pattern, you want to just know about it. Maybe you're not correcting it. Maybe

you're not guiding it. You're saying, hey, help me know more about your world of what's happening. This is good because a number of episodes ago, you talked about the power of the question. Yeah. So if I'm seeing something in my child, some behavior or choice, and it's dangerous or harmful, I ask questions about it. Yeah, there's going to be an assumption from the adult child, right? Out of fairness. They're going to say, you're just trying to control it. You don't like this, right? That's going to be the response. If they're living with you, you have every right to come at. And so, hey, this is something we don't do in our home. If they're playing video games the entire time and they're not going out and finding a job,

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