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Shrink For The Shy Guy

Confidence Traps: From The Nursery To Endless 10x with Dr. Robert Glover

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Careers, Business, Self-improvement, Education

4.8649 Ratings

🗓️ 12 June 2024

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Dr. Aziz sits down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. They dive deep into the traps that hold men back, from the comfort of the nursery to the relentless drive of 10x culture.

Learn about the pitfalls of striving for perfection and how to break free from the patterns of self-doubt and fear. Dr. Glover shares insights on the importance of masculine initiation, overcoming isolation, and the power of connecting with good men to enhance personal growth.

Discover practical steps to face your fears, build genuine confidence, and find balance in your pursuit of success. Tune in for a powerful conversation that will inspire you to take bold actions and live authentically.

 

 

 

Break Free from Fear: The Path to Unstoppable Confidence

 

The Proven Path to Confidence

Dr. Aziz opens with a powerful statement: "This is always the path to confidence." With over 15 years of experience and countless success stories, he shares the ultimate strategy for building unwavering confidence: consistently facing your fears.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

The concept is simple yet profound: to grow, you must step out of your comfort zone and confront what scares you. Dr. Aziz emphasizes that while many understand this idea intellectually, few truly live it.

"Most people know it intellectually, but do not know it in their own experience of life."

Fear is a natural part of growth. Instead of waiting for fear to disappear, Dr. Aziz encourages taking action despite it. This shift from passive waiting to active doing is the cornerstone of building lasting confidence.

Key Steps to Conquer Fear

1. Immediate Action

Acting quickly on new insights is crucial. When you learn something that can improve your confidence, put it into practice immediately. This swift action reinforces your courage and begins the process of transforming fear into confidence.

2. Consistent Action

Confidence isn't built overnight. It requires regular, consistent actions that push your boundaries. Each small step outside your comfort zone adds up, gradually expanding what you’re comfortable with.

"Fear is an invitation. It’s a guiding star, your compass to set your navigation."

Real-Life Examples: From Anxiety to Extraordinary Confidence

Dr. Aziz shares his journey of overcoming deep social anxiety. Afraid of speaking to people, especially women, and voicing his thoughts in groups, he found solace and a path forward in Susan Jeffers' book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. This pivotal moment helped him realize that waiting for fear to vanish was futile. Instead, he began taking immediate and consistent actions to face his fears head-on.

A Conversation with Dr. Robert Glover

In this episode, Dr. Aziz welcomes Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. Dr. Glover shares insights from his extensive experience working with men on relationship and self-esteem issues. Here's a snapshot of his wisdom:

On common recurring problems:

"I see a lot of men feeling not good enough... driven by fear of failure, not good enough, and they've got to be more and more successful. It's never enough."

On dealing with the ruminating brain:

"We've turned it into something to be worshiped. Men are like, we bow at the altar of Navy SEALs, high performing, and super-exing your performance. And that's not all that life's about."

On the impact of social media:

"Put down the social media."

On the practice of surrender:

"The best way to open is to not close. So when your body and your mind, everything is saying no, how can you make it a yes?"

On facing fears:

"If something scares me now, I lean into it. I made a commitment when I turned 40. I didn't want to die afraid."

On masculine initiation:

"Masculine initiation can be dancing in front of a bunch of bros. It’s about facing fears and getting out of your comfort zone."

Practical Exercises to Start Today

Not sure where to start? Begin with simple exercises. Greet a stranger or take a cold shower to challenge yourself. These small actions may seem insignificant, but they build the foundation for greater confidence.

An Inspiring Message: Your Journey to Success

Building confidence is a continuous journey. Dr. Aziz encourages you to practice self-compassion and celebrate each step forward, no matter how small.

"May you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you’re awesome."

Conclusion: Take the First Step Now

The path to confidence is clear: face your fears, take immediate and consistent action, and embrace discomfort as a natural part of growth. Dr. Aziz’s approach isn’t about eliminating fear but transforming it into a powerful ally on your journey to self-discovery and empowerment. Are you ready to take the first step today?

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy.

0:05.0

This is the show for you if you are sick and tired of being held back by fear, self-doubt,

0:10.0

social anxiety, shyness, anything that's stopping you from you being you.

0:15.0

I'm going to share the most powerful tools and resources that I've been discovering over the last 15 years on my

0:21.9

journey to eradicate social anxiety and instill confidence, first in myself and then in every

0:28.5

single person that I meet on my journey. You're going to learn these tools and how to apply them

0:33.1

in your life now so that you can become the most free, powerful, bold, authentic version of you.

0:45.5

Welcome to today's episode of shrink for the shy guy. Today is a special episode because we have

0:50.8

a guest who's actually been a guest of the show several times, and is one of my favorite people to talk to,

0:55.5

and someone that I've personally learned a large amount from.

1:00.1

And his book, one of his books, which is called No More Mr. Nice Guy,

1:05.6

was a significant turning point in my life when I read that,

1:10.2

realizing that Nice wasn't necessarily

1:13.2

a compliment, at least not in the context of when someone hand me to that book.

1:19.8

And actually it has some pitfalls to it. And that really opened my eyes and really led me on

1:24.2

the path that I am now. So there's been a profound influence there. I'm so excited to have you

1:28.7

on the show. Dr. Glover, Robert, thank you for being here with us. Doc, good to be back with you

1:33.3

again. It's always fun to come on the show and talk with you and your listeners. Yes. Yes.

1:38.9

So we'll cover other aspects of your work over the course of this episode.

1:47.5

And we've talked before about niceness and other things.

1:51.1

But I think one of the beautiful things that you offer that people might not know is is not just about how to be less nice and more clear, more assertive, more authentic, all of that.

1:58.0

But you've done, you've dedicated your life to working with people

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