One of the best ways to change a behaviour is to take time out and reassess like Vic is doing,

a bit like we're doing here and take small steps into reframing your habits.

Start by getting out of the people-pleasing practices by saying no to something small,

express your opinion about something simple,

or take a stand for something you believe in. Each step you take will help you gain more confidence

in your ability to be yourself. Now we reached out to some cover members to ask them about their

people pleasing ways and you all got in touch with some amazing answers. So we've got quite a few

and we'll take it in turns going through these. Do you want to take the first one? Yeah, so Danielle, she said doing behaviours that are not in my values to make someone else feel better. Well, that sums it up, doesn't it? That is it. Anna, she said, when someone does something shitty, I go out the way to make them feel better about it. I think it's a

defence mechanism. It's exhausting. Gosh, it is exhausting. I hear you, Anna. Mel says constantly saying

sorry, even when it's not my fault. She's got to be British. Yep. Rachel, considering a drink

so that I make someone else feel more comfortable about their drinking.

Madness.

Gosh, I used to drink.

Yeah, I used to drink for other people sometimes because they wanted to party,

even though I didn't.

I thought, well, I'll make them happy by carrying on and joining in,

even if I was hungover or anything.

It does come back to drinking a lot of the time.

Sarah said, I'm a wee bit confused because I also predominantly text back straight away as and when I see the message because my phone is permanently on silent and I'm always on

time. But isn't that just basic courtesy rather than people pleasing? That's what we hope we've

covered that this episode.

We've talked a lot about manners.

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