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Welcome back to the Dreamy Scott Fitness podcast and radio show. I want to talk about something really quick here that is important to me that I live my life by, and I've lived it for a long time. And it's something that we just share with our 47-day transformation people right now. It's a module that they just went through towards the end of their 47-day transformation. And it's called comparison is the thief of joy more importantly never compare yourself to other people

and i believe this to be true i don't think we really know what people are going through how happy

they are and what they really have but yet in the world of social media the internet we like to compare

ourselves to others and what we think their life is like and i urge you guys to not do that because

comparison does not work.

And the only way it actually does function is if you compare yourself to somebody who you

think is better than you, it makes you feel like shit.

If you compare yourself to someone you think is inferior to you, it puts you on a pedestal

makes you feel good about yourself only by putting somebody else down.

Now, if you can't see how that's a fucking lose-lose situation, then we really can't help you. But it's just the truth. And again, we really never know what people are going through and what kind of life they're living. And I don't think most of you guys even know what your friends are going through and what their life is truly like. And I don't say that in a negative light. But most of us aren't even honest with ourselves. We either tell ourselves that it's better than it is or it's worse than it is, but very few of us have enough self-awareness to tell ourselves, this is our life and this is exactly how it is, and this is how happy I am, this is how fulfilled I am, and so on. And the reason I say that to you guys is because most of your close friends or family, they don't feel comfortable in opening up to you guys and telling you the truth, the real shit that's really going to embarrass them or they feel bothered by it or they don't feel comfortable divulging some of the deepest secrets. And I say that to say this because I work in the industry and I've been in this, you guys, for the last 10 years. And I'm kind of like this neutral third party island

where people come in and they feel very comfortable sharing things with me and with our staff and with our people inside of our groups because they make it a very comfortable, safe community and environment for them to share things that they would not share with their friends. And I have people you guys here who are millionaires who are so stressed about money, you would blow your mind. I have people here who seamlessly post every perfect picture on Instagram and Facebook that they had the most beautiful

loving family and they're fucking miserable. And there's people here who have the most quote unquote

successful careers and job titles and they come in and they're most emotionally broken

humans you've ever met. Now not everybody, but at scale you guys, it would surprise you to your core of how many people are living a fake life on the internet and in front of you, and they're miserable every single day that they don't see you. And that's just the truth. So that's why I would tell you guys not to compare yourselves, and I mean this across the board, to the kind of car people drive, to the house they live in, to their job title, to their marriage,

to the shape that they're living in, because you don't know, A, but the cost they paid to get that, and you don't know really what they're going through sometimes to have those things. Like, you don't know the guy driving the car next to you. Sweet, dude, you've got to fly-ass bends. Your lease is $800 a month and you're so stressed out. you can't sleep at night. You can barely afford to pay it. Or all awesome, dude. You have a beautiful countertops, amazing kitchen. You have an awesome home, sweet pool, great backyard. But yet, you're about three months away from foreclosing. Oh, you're in such amazing shape. That's super cool. Oh, I love her abs or her butt or her legs. and yet she's so stressed out about eating she can barely, you know, take two seconds to live a normal life.

And again, I'm not saying everybody is that, but you can't compare what you think your life is like to what you think somebody else's life is like, because it's just, we don't ever know you guys. We truly don't unless it comes from the horse's mouth. And even then, it might not be the truth. And I say that because a lot of times in fitness and in health people are comparing their chapter one so they're just starting out in their fitness journey and they're comparing it to somebody else's chapter 15 who's been in it for seven years well why can't it be in so-and-so shape or why can't do what they do because a they're at a different stage on the journey than you are and two more, their genetics are different. Their mom and dad is different. Their parents are different. You know, they might be leaner faster. You might build muscle quicker than they do. They might have, you know, lagging body parts, or they might have something that's just a fast responder. Or you might just have a friend who just has abs because fuck it. She just does. She won the genetic lottery and she's just a freak show and that's how it's going to be or great legs or a great butt or whatever it is but you can't take one thing you don't like about yourself and compare it to somebody else's best attribute that's not a healthy thing you guys because i promise you there's stuff that you're fucking amazing at that you're not comparing to someone else and it's dragging you down and again don't take what you're awesome at and compare it to your friend who sucks at it just to make yourself feel better. It is a lose-lose situation across the board. My advice to you is this. Just bowling your own lane. Truly just live your life the way you want to live it. Do the shit that makes you happy and do the things that fill your fucking cup every day. Get kind of this tunnel vision and just do the things that get you the most valued of what you're doing. And don't worry about everybody else. Control what you can control. Take pride in the things that you're awesome at. Work on the things you don't love, you know, about yourself just yet. And enjoy the journey along the way because comparison you guys is a lose lose game

nobody comes out ahead not you not the person you're putting on a pedestal not the person

you're dragging down i promise you that and as soon as you guys can grow up and get out of that

comparison bullshit mindset if you have to delete instagram or delete facebook or whatever you have to do

to get out of that shit the fast you you do it, the faster your life will change

and it'll change for the better. Quick little ranch, you guys, hopefully enjoyed it. Anything else you want to see or hear, hit me up, let me know. And again, comparison to the thief of joy, do not do it. It robs you guys of your happiness. And that's a second of your 86,400 that you cannot get back every second that you do it.

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