Codependency And Narcissism

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 16 August 2020

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

In today's episode I want to talk about codependency and the narcissist, because a codependent is literally a magnet to a narcissist. We will go over what codependency is, and the mechanism behind the codependent-narcissist mutual attraction.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

What is exactly codependency?
The roots of the lack of self-love and self-worth in childhood
The similarities and differences between a narcissist and a codependent
How we end up in the vicious circle of a narcissist-codependent relationship
Why it’s easier to heal codependency than narcissism
How to start with healing your codependency

When you put expectations on other people to behave in a certain way for you to feel good enough, you're putting your happiness in someone else's hands. You need to take responsibility to go within and heal your wounds first. And when you heal your own codependency, you change everything because you stop looking externally to get your sense of self worth.

Resources:

Healing Codependency: Self Hate To Self Love Course: https://t4s.site/copy-of-template---quick-flip-funnel-3/healingcodependency-1/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.2	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.8	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you.
0:21.4	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:29.9	So in today's episode, I want to talk to you about codependency and the narcissist.
0:35.5	Because a codependent is a magnet, literally a magnet to a narcissist.
0:41.7	So I want to talk to exactly what codependency is. So codependency is really a lack of yourself.
0:49.9	It's a lack of self-love, self-believe, self-esteem, self-respect, a real lack of self. At the core of
0:57.4	who we are when we come into this world, we expect love to be available. We expect our needs to
1:02.7	be met. Now, through our childhood, if that doesn't happen for whatever reason, and again, this can
1:09.6	be from abuse and neglect, but equally it can come from
1:12.7	parents who are just incapable of showing us that, you know, they may have had an unemotional
1:17.6	childhood themselves. So it doesn't necessarily mean abuse, but it can mean trauma to you. So it can
1:24.6	be overwhelmed to the system. So codependency comes about from your childhood.
1:29.5	Again, you're not born a codependent and equally you're not born a narcissist. And actually at the
1:34.7	core of a narcissist is also codependency. So I'll explain a bit about this in a moment. So the wound
1:41.8	that comes from being a codependent is this lack of self-love. So I want you to
1:46.7	imagine now that you have this, what I call a hole in your soul, this wound of I am not good enough.
1:54.3	I am not worthy, this lack of self that you don't know simply for being who you are,
2:00.6	simply for being Caroline or whoever you are,
2:04.0	that that is good enough. And that could have been from your childhood that maybe you only got
2:09.1	praise if you got straight AIDS. Maybe you only got praise if you looked a certain way.
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