We'll go back to when you and your spouse were dating and you saw all the wonderful

qualities in them. You didn't have any problem accepting all of them because they're just so wonderful.

How do you keep that level of positivity going even after you've been married for a while

and the flaws kind of pop up.

Well, I'm John Fuller joined by my focus colleagues, Aaron and Greg Smalley and Greg,

focusing on the better aspects of our spouse tends to be a good decision, doesn't it? It's a good thing and

it's not always easy because it's simple to become what's called habituated.

In other words, we just get used to our spouse

and it's easy for me to get used to all the amazing aspects

of who Aaron is and what she does.

And for me to kind of remind myself of these really good

aspects one of the things that I've done that I don't even know why I did this but

this has been happening for now years.

I can't wait to hear.

And I love it is that when she calls me, I have it set up to where the phrase beautiful wife pops up and so every single time

was that her ID yeah on the content yeah so every time that Aaron calls me, it just pops up beautiful wife and I smile, I'm reminded.

It's just something that I love doing.

So I would even encourage you, think about what would be

call you think about what would be this really cool ID that you could put for your spouse

so wouldn't they call that it's just a reminder or maybe rotate that every month

they have a different aspect and character quality or personality trade of your spouse that pops up what an easy way to do that because you're going to get called multiple times every day.

And like for me and my life, the ear and probably calls me a hundred times probably every day.

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