When I look back at my life growing up I think my mom did the absolute best that she could I have no

Frustration resentment

It was just a I'd say superficial on the way that we communicated about life and again I don't blame her I think she's just trying to get by and figure out how do we pay the bills and get kids to school and so it's not a malicious thing but we just never had a

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This is family life today. All right, Anne, I've got a question for you.

You think it's helpful for people to look back at their childhood and think my parents did the best they could. I want to answer that for our kids if they're listening yes you should do that.

I think that that's a good thing but I don't think we all come to that realization quickly.

Like now, at this age, I can say my parents did the best they could.

But I think a lot of us go through a phase

that we see ourselves as being broken and we think whose fault is that.

Oh, I know, it's my parents fault.

And so I think we can blame them or blame our past circumstances on different things or people but I think that's a

grace statement my parents did the best they could yeah and I think it takes time

healing maturity and maturity to get to that point. I honestly think almost

every child we did goes through that sort of journey in their 30s.

Me too.

It may have in the 20s, but for us it was in their 30s.

I started questioning everything about my childhood and it took some time to get to a point where you know what it

was pretty broken you know divorce blended family but it they did the best they

could yeah and I get our kids will say they did the best they could. Yeah. And I hope our kids will say they did the best they could.

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