So, Brito, I have a bunch of emails from patrons that I thought we would read and we would answer their questions.

What do you say, Brito? Sounds like a fabulous idea.

This is the Psychology and Seattle podcast and we host Dr. Kirkana. I'm a therapist and a professor.

Who are you, Brito? My name is Umberto Kastagnia and I'm an astroturf landscaping technician.

So, anonymous patron she writes, while I was in a committed relationship,

so see us questions about a question about cheating. While I was in a committed relationship,

I began talking to another man online. I noticed that I was looking forward to his messages.

After about a month, I began to drop hints in our conversations that I was attracted to him

and I broke up with my boyfriend soon after that and I started a relationship with that online guy.

Is what I did considered cheating? I have a history of cheating on boyfriends and past relationships.

I feel like I did the right thing this time around and I don't want to be seen as someone who

cheats is what I did considered cheating. Brito, what do you think?

The timing is, so she was in a relationship and she was flirting with a guy online.

Yeah, but then she still ended the relationship before.

Okay, so the question is, is the flirting count as the cheating?

Online flirting that, well, with someone consistently over time. She was just flirting with a bunch

of people. She was flirting with one particular guy. I still feel like this is the right way to do it.

So look, you are sometimes going to find someone new and like you kind of can't have one without

the other. In other words, imagine you go to the party and you meet someone. You have a good

conversation. It's a little flirty. Do you in that moment go, oh god, I've cheated. I'm ending my

really honey. We have to end our relationship. I cheated. Of course not. But then where does that

line drop? Well, then you say, well, I'll never talk to this person again. Maybe, but what if you're

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