Do you exhibit a type of behavior or personality trait you don't necessarily love about yourself? It could be moodiness or it could be being extremely judgmental or it could be an emotional state you have a tendency to default to like sadness, worry, anger or fear. Women often have a difficult time dealing with anger because we have not been encouraged to express it. We may default to sadness which limits us from reaching our passion and our fire. We suppress our emotions and any big emotion we suppress will eventually leak. Anger becomes irritability, sadness becomes depression and shame comes out as insecurity. Suppressed emotions can also lead to physical ailments. It is not healthy to suppress our emotions. 

 

Today's caller Monica acknowledges her own moodiness and is wondering if it is something she can change or if it's a fixed personality trait. She suppresses her anger and doesn't speak her truth. If there is something about you that does not feel good to you, like moodiness, you can change it. You just need to uncover why it's there in the first place. Moodiness can be a messenger that you may be suppressing pent up anger and frustration. It is liberating to express your anger and be free of the moodiness. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat.   

 

Consider/Ask Yourself: 

 

● Is there something about you that you would like to change? Is it an inherent part of your personality or do you believe you can change it? Are you willing to do the work to change it? 

 

● Do you experience times when you are irritable or snap at someone? How do you express your anger? 

 

● Do you feel self-expressed? Do you fully feel your feelings?   

 

Monica's Question: 

Monica recognizes she is a moody person and would like to know if she is able to shift out of it or if it is part of her personality.   

 

Monica's Key Insights and Aha's:

● Her moodiness stems from suppressing her anger  

 

● When she speaks her truth she feels shut down 

 

● She has trouble expressing herself  

 

● She doesn't like conflict 

 

● She becomes the victim, as a coping strategy   

 

How to get over it and on with it: 

● Realize her irritability and bluntness are actually inner anger leaking out 

● She should do the Temper Tantrum technique and 32 days of the Release Writing technique, which are in her copy of Expectation Hangover 

● She should step away from the conversation and get her anger out, on her own   

 

Tools and Takeaways: 

● Identify the ways you may be leaking. Know where you are suppressing and how you may be expressing it in other ways.    

 

● If you sense you may have anger you have yet to acknowledge, start Release Writing. 

 

● Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover, in particular, the Adult Temper Tantrum and Release Writing techniques. 

 

● Speak your truth and process your raw feelings to eliminate suppression.    

 

Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter@christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com