CC: Reair: EP 157: Trust Yourself, Stop Caring What Others Think and Feel your Feelings with Steve
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 18 June 2022
⏱️ 48 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that's because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode.
It takes a lot of energy to repress pain. And, that's why it feels hard to move forward in our lives, it feels hard to get a career off the ground, or to connect in relationships because we are unconsciously suppressing a lot of pain.
Pain wants to come up and out. Our bodies don't want to hold terrible memories or trauma inside. Our unconscious mind wants to let it go. So, it continues to make us feel uncomfortable until we deal with it. Not just mentally, but emotionally as well.
It may be difficult to go back and to feel the pain of your childhood but you are feeling it anyway, 24/7 — it is just repressed. It is healthier to go into it and feel it fully with self-compassion so it can come up and out.
When pain doesn't have a way to express with compassion, it sits inside you dormant and continues to drive your choices and behaviors.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Do you feel like you have hit a point where things were going well but old stuff started to come up?
- If you are a man, do you have difficulty feeling vulnerable? Do you judge it as weakness?
- Is vulnerability awkward for you? Maybe, it's OK for others to be vulnerable but it's hard for you?
- Do you trust yourself? Do you trust your decisions? Do you feel safe with your pain?
- Do you find yourself jumping to forgiveness too quickly? Are you able to mentally understand and justify things that have happened in your life but you notice the pain is still there?
Steve's Question:
Steve is struggling with worrying about what other people think of him for what he believes to be the first time in his life.
Steve's Key Insights and Ahas:
- He's always had to prove himself.
- He has tried to be different his entire life.
- He joined a gang as a teenager.
- He hasn't forgiven himself for betraying himself.
- His experience built loyalty.
- He is able to relate to many different types of people.
- He has a warrior spirit.
- His girlfriend was murdered.
- He didn't have a relationship with his father.
- He is in the process of up-leveling.
- He wants to eliminate his pain completely.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- He needs to quit judging himself and create a space to be vulnerable.
- He needs to trust himself more.
- He needs to spend time feeling his feelings.
- He needs to do the emotional section of Expectation Hangover.
- He should write down what being a loving father to himself looks like.
Sponsors:
Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward essentials to your door. Express has pants, work tops, dresses, and more. Listeners to Over It and On With It will receive $25 off when you spend $100 by using the code 'Christine' at checkout.
Resources:
Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community
Watch Christine Hassler on YouTube — Hit Subscribe!
Christine's Personal Mastery Course
Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
@ChristineHassler on Instagram
Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Coach's Corner. |
| 0:04.3 | So because I'm on maternity leave, we wanted to mix it up on the weekend for you. |
| 0:08.7 | All the Wednesday episodes are fresh coaching calls I pre-recorded before I had the baby. |
| 0:14.0 | And this episode that you're going to hear is an old coaching call that I did several |
| 0:18.5 | years ago that was one of the crowd's favorites. |
| 0:21.6 | So maybe you've heard it, maybe you haven't, maybe it's a good time to relisten to it. |
| 0:25.0 | We can always learn more when we relisten to something as well. |
| 0:28.4 | So I hope you enjoy this coaching episode. |
| 0:30.8 | And I want to thank my sponsor for this episode, Organify. |
| 0:34.0 | You can get 20% off all your Organify products at organify.com slash over it, using promo |
| 0:39.2 | code over it. |
| 0:40.7 | I love their Organify Green Juice. |
| 0:42.6 | It's an incredible super food blend rich in micronutrients, Moringa, known as nature's |
| 0:48.0 | most powerful multivitamin, is rich in vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and aminos and |
| 0:52.8 | Moringa's in the Green Juice. |
| 0:55.2 | It contains a 9 times the protein of yogurt, 10 times the vitamin A's carrots, 15 times |
| 1:00.2 | the potassium of bananas, 17 times the calcium of milk, 12 times the vitamin C of oranges, |
| 1:06.6 | 25 times the iron of spinach. |
| 1:09.5 | So the body needs both macro and micronutrients for optimal health. |
| 1:13.0 | We all understand the importance of macro nutrients, protein fat carbohydrates, and these |
| 1:17.0 | make up the majority of our diet, but often the micronutrients aren't neglected. |
| 1:22.1 | Micronutrients, which include the vitamins and minerals, that are in Organify Green. |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Christine Hassler, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Christine Hassler and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.