Casual Dating: How casual is too casual?

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Christianity, Talk Radio, Default, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 14 May 2019

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

There’s a lot of casual dating going on these days…and it’s starting to get confusing. Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex. Today’s question comes from a young woman who is struggling with the latest trend of casual dating where a guy can hang out with as many girls as he wants (or vice versa) in the name of “casual dating”. Casual Dating Can’t Stay Casual The problem is that people tend to think in two extremes. Either they are way too casual and keep the relationship ambiguous and commitment free for FAR too long, or they’re on the other end of the spectrum in which they see dating as a near marriage commitment. They’re unwilling to consider anything casual and they expect a relationship to start seriously from the get-go. But BOTH of these mentalities can be harmful, and in this episode of the podcast we talk through the ins and outs of how to do “casual dating” in a healthy way, and the red flags you need to be aware of along the way. I’m going to bring up a few important questions you need to ask yourself if you want to know how to do causal dating well. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about causal dating! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,
0:24.0	and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating,
0:29.2	singleness, and marriage. For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time,
0:33.7	I'm a licensed professional counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.
0:39.3	I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the
0:44.8	message that healthy people make healthy relationships. If you've tuned into the podcast before,
0:51.1	you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people call in or write in with
0:55.2	their relationship questions and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized
1:00.3	answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email or
1:05.8	voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page, truelovedates.com slash love and
1:13.2	relationships. And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get
1:17.9	started. Today's question comes from Sarah. Hello, Deborah. I have a question about your thoughts on casual
1:29.7	dating. I have a few guy friends who follow a casual dating method of going on lots of dates
1:35.4	with lots of different girls, such as going on walks, getting dinner, coffee, et cetera. To them,
1:40.6	they think as long as they communicate that they're just getting to know these girls,
1:49.6	it's okay. However, something feels off to me. I know a lot of these girls and these guys often end up accidentally hurting them. Do you have any thoughts on this? These guys are fantastic Christian guys and
1:54.9	it seems like a good idea, but just too idealistic. Perhaps at one time this worked, but in our
2:00.1	culture today, it seems like
2:01.2	girls end up just feeling like one on a list. I really appreciate your thoughts and advice.
2:06.1	Thanks.
2:11.7	So I really wanted to tackle this question today from Sarah about casual dating, because this is something that's been coming up again and again and again.
2:21.9	We live in kind of a hookup culture, and so there tends to be two extremes here.
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