Carrying The Mental Load
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
4.9 • 755 Ratings
🗓️ 20 June 2022
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen break down the buzz term "the mental load" AKA cognitive labor! They discuss gender roles and how the mental load has historically fallen on women, the overfunctioning/underfunctioning dynamic in relationships and what these terms mean and look like, the mental load falling onto the person who cares more, being the default parent and how to divide the mental load when parenting, what to do when you feel like you’re the only one who knows how to do it "right," the mental loads Emmalee and Jen carry in their relationships with their partners and with one another, and so much more! Dear Em & Jen answers a listener question about constantly having to remind her partner to help around the house and how to stop getting so annoyed at this dynamic. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
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| 0:00.0 | So let me be honest for a second. |
| 0:02.0 | Braves and underwear have always been a pain point for me. |
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| 0:12.4 | I'd get so frustrated shopping for bras and underwear that I kind of gave up. |
| 0:17.2 | I'd add things to my cart online, stare at them, and then just never check out. |
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