Caroline Fleck on Why Validation Fuels Our Sense of Mattering | EP 659

Passion Struck with John R. Miles

John R. Miles

Mental Health, Alternative Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 779 Ratings

🗓️ 4 September 2025

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Caroline Fleck—clinical psychologist, researcher, and author of Validation—explores why so many of us struggle with anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout, not because we’re broken, but because our need for validation has gone unmet. She explains how validation is more than comfort—it’s proof that we matter.Drawing on her clinical work and scientific research, Dr. Fleck demonstrates why validation is the foundation of resilience, connection, and well-being, and how learning to validate ourselves and others can bridge the gap between feeling invisible and living with purpose.Visit this link for the full show notesGo Deeper: The Ignited Life SubstackIf this episode stirred something in you, The Ignited Life is where the transformation continues. Each week, I share behind-the-scenes insights, science-backed tools, and personal reflections to help you turn intention into action.Subscribe🔗 and get the companion resources delivered straight to your inbox.Catch more of Dr. Caroline Fleck: https://drcarolinefleck.com/If you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don’t forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.Get the full companion workbook at TheIgnitedLife.netFull episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JohnRMilesListen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcastsEveryone deserves to feel valued and important. Show it by wearing it: https://startmattering.com/

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0:17.4	So I couldn't, I'd have to cancel a session or I'd have to everybody understood. There was all sorts of support and understanding. And I'm thinking like, wow,
0:25.4	this feels, because with that mess and depression, that stuff is very hard to see in a lot of ways.
0:32.2	Welcome to Passionstruck. Hi, I'm your host, John R. Miles. And on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turned their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you.
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1:50.2	We opened this series with Dr. Bruce Miller and Dr. Virginia Stern, who revealed how the social
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