Carey and Toni Nieuwhof - Setting Absurd Expectations for Marriage

Dream Big Podcast with Bob Goff and Friends

Bob Goff

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.8 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2021

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Nobody stands at the altar on their wedding day and vows, "Hey- let's just shoot for typical, ok?" Rather, wedding days are filled with hope and imagination for a beautiful life spent together.

But then real life happens.

Marriage is certainly not an easy endeavor. And rarely does anyone get taught how to navigate the complexities of marriage, like navigating conflict, financial stress, career struggles, or raising kids together. With all of that, you throw in a global pandemic on top of it, and so many marriages have really struggled recently.

So, where can we turn to help us sort it all out? I can think of no one better suited than Carey and Toni Nieuwhof.

Carey Nieuwhof is a best-selling leadership author, speaker, podcaster, former attorney, and church planter. He writes one of today’s most influential leadership blogs, and his online content is accessed by leaders over 1.5 million times a month. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change and personal growth. Carey and his wife, Toni have been married for over 30 years.

Toni Nieuwhof is a family law mediator, former divorce attorney, author, speaker and co-host of the Smart Family Podcast. Toni and Carey have spoken publicly about their marriage and she has just released a book to help struggling marriages, Before You Split. From her attorney work, she gives her readers a clearer view of their future options, while also showing how her marriage with Carey went from that bad to this good.

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Producer : Tatave Abeshyan

Producer & Co-host : Scott Schimmel

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to another episode of the Dream Big Podcast with Bob Goff and Friends.
0:11.8	I'm Scott Shimmel.
0:13.4	It is now June.
0:15.0	Welcome to the start of summer.
0:17.8	June also, in years past, is the summer of getting married, and on my wife and I have
0:25.3	an anniversary later this month.
0:27.0	I think it's 18 years, I'm excited to do the math, 18 years coming up, and no one teaches
0:35.2	you how to be married, right?
0:37.2	You get to see your parents sort of, you know, you're around them obviously.
0:42.6	You don't really get to see and hear everything.
0:45.1	There's no class on marriage.
0:47.2	You just get married and then try to figure it out all on your own more or less.
0:52.6	It's not something necessarily that people talk about.
0:56.2	Of course, there's TV, there's movies, there's stories about getting married, but big
1:00.2	questions come up over the years.
1:02.3	How do we effectively navigate through conflict?
1:05.4	How do we negotiate with these ambitions that we have independently?
1:10.4	How do we dream about our lives together?
1:13.5	And then you add children into the mix, financial, stress, career issues, maybe a global
1:20.1	pandemic on top of all that.
1:22.8	Yeah, there's just a ton, marriage is so complicated, and really nothing is more important
1:28.8	either than that primary relationship.
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