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Hello and welcome to Dial Emma, the podcast where your dilemmas meet my therapeutic insights.

I'm Emma Reed-Torrell, psychotherapist, author, and well-recovering people-pleaser.

Each week, I'll be unpacking

real-life questions from listeners just like you. The big ones, the small ones, the ones that keep you

up at night, offering practical tools and gentle truths to help you find your way through. So if

you've got a question, you don't know how to ask out loud. You've come to the right place.

And so to our first dilemma.

I'm a new mum in a safe job, but I'm desperate for a career change.

Is it selfish to risk it? Dear Emma, before I had my baby,

I was already feeling restless in my job. It's steady, easy, close to home, and completely

uninspiring. I've been here long enough to know the rhythm, and while it's safe,

it's also stifling. Now my daughter is nearly two, and that urge to do something different

is stronger than ever. I've been researching career changes, even retraining, but every time I get excited, I hear the voice in my head, and sometimes from my family, saying, why would you risk it now? You've got a child to think about.

The truth is, I don't want my daughter to grow up watching me stay somewhere that drains me, but I also don't want to gamble with our security.

Is it selfish to want more when I already have enough?

Thank you so much for sharing your dilemma.

Is it selfish to want more when I already had enough? That really landed

for me as a question, as a punctuation towards a really complicated dilemma, but that when you

distilled it down, the words you found were selfish, want enough. There's so much to your dilemma that's beyond you. In a way, as you said before

you had your baby, you were already feeling restless in your job. It was already a job that was

meeting some of your needs, but perhaps not enough.

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