This episode contains explicit language.

Welcome to Mom and Dad are Fighting, Slate's parenting podcast for Thursday, February 17th, the I love you even when you're mad edition.

I'm Zach Rosen. I host the Best Advice Show podcast. I live in Detroit with my family. My daughter, Noah, is four, and my son, Ami, is one.

I'm Jamila Lemieux. I am a writer, contributor to Slate's care and feeding parenting column and mom to Naima, who is nearly nine, and we live in Los Angeles.

I'm Elizabeth Newkamp. I write the homeschool and family travel blog, Dutch Dutch goose. I'm the mom to three littles,

Henry who's nine, Oliver who's seven, and Teddy who's five. We live in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

On today's show, we are tackling a rather interesting question about navigating unwanted

attention. Our letter writer's little kid doesn't love the attention she's getting for looking

different than other kids in her area.

What should they do?

Then we welcome Deborah Farmer Chris, a child development expert, NPR contributor, and PBS

Kids columnist to teach us how to help our kids and ourselves understand that all emotions

are okay.

And on Slate Plus, we'll be discussing a fascinating piece by science journalist Melinda

Wenner Moyer. She talked to grownups looking back on their experiences with child therapy.

But before we get into all that goodness, we received a very personal and informative listener

letter following the episode a few weeks back about the impending death of a grandmother.

Hi, y'all. My husband died by suicide in 2018 when my daughter's were ages four and two.

I came to learn that there are tons of resources available to help kids learn about death and process their grief.

Since he died, I've become a mom who speaks openly about death with my kids.

I'm also open with this part of our lives with new families we meet.

Of course, this is a great tragedy, but this experience has given all of us a new level of empathy for others,

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