Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show - Should I Allow Compliments About How My Kid Looks?
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🗓️ 11 March 2024
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp, Zak Rosen, and Jamilah Lemieux answer a question that someone actually posed to Jamilah on Instagram… about whether it’s okay to entertain compliments about your kid’s appearance. A facilitator at school has suggested redirecting to character compliments when this toddler — the only Black kid in her class — is praised for her appearance. But is there place for just calling a cute kid a cute kid?
We’ll also do a round of recommendations. And then, in the Slate Plus realm, we’re talking about a piece in NYTMag… asserting that the teen subculture as we knew it is dead. In its place? The *~ aesthetic ~*
Recommendations:
Jamilah recommends: Get a 64 oz water jug
Zak recommends: Art Hub For Kids YouTube Channel
Elizabeth recommends: UV Detection Stickers for Sunscreen (link to uVify)
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| 0:00.0 | This episode may contain explicit language. |
| 0:05.0 | Welcome to Karen Feeding, the show where we parent together. |
| 0:10.0 | I'm Jamila Mu, a writer, contributor to Slates Karen Beating Parenting Column, and Mom's Naima, who's |
| 0:16.8 | almost 11, and we live in Los Angeles. |
| 0:19.8 | I'm Elizabeth New Camp. |
| 0:20.8 | I write the Family Travel Blog Dutch Dutch Goose I'm the mom of three |
| 0:23.7 | little's Henry who's 11 Oliver who's 9 and Teddy who 7 we live in Tokyo Japan I'm |
| 0:29.2 | Zachary Rosen I am the host of another podcast it's called the Best Advice Show and I'm Dad to |
| 0:34.3 | Noah who's six and Ami who's three. We live in Detroit. Today on the show we're |
| 0:39.0 | answering a question about whether it's okay to accept compliments about our children's appearances. |
| 0:45.0 | This parent of a black toddler has been told not to entertain compliments about how their |
| 0:49.5 | kid looks. |
| 0:50.5 | But is that really the right approach? |
| 0:53.0 | Later on, we're going to recommend some things that we're loving right now and think you might too. |
| 0:58.0 | And then, if you're in the Slate Plus Club, we're going to be talking about what the New York Times has called the death of the teen |
| 1:04.4 | subculture. Here's what you'll hear if you have Slate Plus. I think it's hard prior to phones things like that to really know what the picture of teens was like |
| 1:18.0 | like were we out there asking them or were we even worried about teen loneliness, right? |
| 1:23.1 | Like a lot of the same stuff is going on. |
| 1:25.7 | And I don't think that the problem is coming |
| 1:28.8 | because they're into aesthetics, right? |
| 1:31.0 | The problem is coming of teen loneliness and because we live in such a |
| 1:36.3 | divisive world where they're targeted and I guess I just, yes, some of that is |
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