Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show - My Husband Isn’t Helping Out With Childcare. I’m Overwhelmed.
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🗓️ 10 April 2023
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a question from an overwhelmed listener who is doing most of the childcare and housework for her family. Her husband isn’t helping out and is citing his ADHD as the reason why. What can they do to make the workload more manageable for everyone?
Recommendations:
Zak recommends letting kids take the lead in the museum.
Elizabeth recommends Exit: The Game.
Jamilah recommends Wellmania on Netflix
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to mom and dad are fighting Slate's parenting podcast for Monday, April 10th. |
| 0:07.2 | I'm Jamila Mew, a writer, contributor to Slate's care and feeding parenting column |
| 0:11.8 | and mom's Naima who is 10 and we live in Los Angeles. |
| 0:15.6 | I'm Elizabeth Newcamp. |
| 0:16.6 | I write the homeschool and family travel blog, Dutch Dutch Goose. |
| 0:19.5 | I'm the mom to three little's. |
| 0:21.1 | Henry, who just turned 11, Oliver, who's eight and Teddy, who's six. |
| 0:26.8 | We live in Colorado Springs, Colorado. |
| 0:30.0 | I'm Zach Rosen. |
| 0:30.8 | I make the best advice show podcast and I am dad to Noah, who's five and Ami, who's two. |
| 0:37.0 | We live in Detroit. |
| 0:38.5 | This week on the show, we have a letter from a listener who is struggling with an unequal parenting load. |
| 0:44.0 | Her partner is blaming this on his ADHD, but she's finding it hard to be sympathetic. |
| 0:49.7 | After assessing this letter, we'll move on to recommendations as you and then we're going to reach into our mailbags to read some advice from you dear listeners. |
| 0:59.2 | But first, let's start with today's question. |
| 1:01.8 | Dear mom and dad, my husband has ADHD and we have two young kids in early elementary school. |
| 1:07.3 | I'm not exaggerating when I say I do 99.9% of the house and child care plus 100% of the mental load and the vast majority of work because we own a business together. |
| 1:19.9 | When I ask for help with anything, it's met with hostility. |
| 1:23.0 | If I complain that he doesn't help as a co-parent or spouse, he gets angry that I am not being understanding |
| 1:28.6 | of his ADHD or calling him a bad father. |
| 1:31.9 | Or he gets mad that I don't appreciate the bit of help I get from him at work. |
| 1:36.9 | And I'll be honest, I'm not understanding. |
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