Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show - Avoiding The Toxic Comparison Spiral
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🗓️ 11 January 2024
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
On this episode: Zak Rosen, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Jamilah Lemieux help a listener who’s thrilled that she and her siblings all had kids in 2022 — but, as those babies become toddlers, the temptation to compare the cousins is strong. How can this no-drama mama prevent herself and her siblings from falling into this trap… not to mention grandparents and partners?
We’ll also dive into our week in triumphs and fails, as usual. We’re off this coming Monday for MLK Day, but we’ll see you back in the main feed Thursday.
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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast may contain explicit language. |
| 0:06.0 | Welcome to Care and Feeding, the show where we raise the next generation together. |
| 0:10.0 | I'm Jamila Mu, a writer, |
| 0:12.0 | contributor to Sla's Care and Feeding Parenting Column, and Mom Tnaima, who's 10, and we live in Los Angeles. |
| 0:19.0 | I'm Zach Rosen. I make another podcast. It's called The Best Advice Show, and I'm Dad to Noah, who's six and |
| 0:24.6 | Army who's three. We live in Detroit, Michigan. |
| 0:27.0 | I'm Elizabeth New Camp. I write the Family Travel Blog Dutch, Dutch Goose. |
| 0:30.6 | I'm the mom of Three Little's, Henry, who's 11, Oliver who's 9, and Teddy who's 7. |
| 0:35.6 | We live in Tokyo, Japan. |
| 0:38.0 | This week we're answering a question from a listener who's not about the drama. That is the drama that comes from comparing |
| 0:45.0 | your kids with others. This listener is close with three of her siblings and |
| 0:49.3 | they all had kids back in 2022. But as those cousins get older, it's hard to avoid the toxic |
| 0:55.7 | comparison spiral. So how can they avoid that and help their grandparents and |
| 1:00.5 | partners avoid it too? Then we're going to debrief on our weekend |
| 1:04.3 | parenting with a round of everyone's favorite, triumphs and fails. We're going to |
| 1:09.3 | take a quick break and then we'll see you back here for our listener question. |
| 1:13.0 | All right, we're back and ready to hop into our first listener question. |
| 1:20.0 | Let's hear it. |
| 1:25.0 | Dear Karen Feeding Pod, my siblings and I are very close. There are four of us, three girls and one boy, all born within a six-year span. |
| 1:33.0 | In 2022, we all had a baby, and we are so excited that our kids will grow up together. |
| 1:38.1 | Amongst ourselves, we are not competitive, and we want to remain that way. |
| 1:41.9 | We're doing our best to not compare ourselves as parents or to compare the kids to each other, |
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