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The Virtual Couch

Can You Truly Fake It Until You Make It? Putting The Expectation Effect in Action!

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.9668 Ratings

🗓️ 29 September 2020

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Years ago a fascinating study was conducted where two groups of people were randomly assigned some rats. One group was told that their rats were “Maze-bright,” meaning that their rats had been bread to figure out how to get through mazes fast! The other group was told that their rats were “Maze-dull” and that they had just your standard, run-of-the-mill rats. Both groups of people were given 5 days to train their rats to get through a complicated maze. When the two groups of rats were then put to the test, the rats that were deemed “Maze-bright” made it through twice as fast as the “Maze-dull,” rats...despite the fact that there truly wasn’t such a thing as a maze-bright or maze-dull rat! Did the rats “fake it until they made it” or were they privy to what psychologists call the “expectancy effect?”

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Tony takes a look at the article The Expectancy Effect: Improve Performance With This Human Behavior Quirk by Vanessa Van Edwards, national best-selling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People and a founder of the popular website Science of People. https://www.scienceofpeople.com/expectancy-effect/

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Tony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4. The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.

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Transcript

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Coming up on today's episode of the virtual couch, I'm going to talk about whether or not you can in fact fake it until you make it.

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And more specifically, what effect does an expectation have on results?

0:10.9

Should fake it until you make it be viewed more as believe it until you become it?

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And what role do you as a parent, coach, teacher, or leader have in projecting healthy expectations on people you

0:22.6

might have influence over. That and plenty more coming up on today's episode of the virtual

0:27.1

couch.

0:37.3

Hey, everybody, welcome to episode 225 of the virtual couch.

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I am your host, Tony Overbay.

0:43.4

I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer-speaker,

0:47.4

husband, father of four, ultra marathon runner, and creator of the Pathback, an online

0:51.4

pornography recovery program that is helping people reclaim their lives from the harmful effects of pornography. If you or anyone that you know is struggling to put pornography behind them once and for all, and trust me, it can be done in a strength-based, hold the shame, become the person you always wanted to be way. Then please head over to pathback recovery.com. And there you will find a short ebook that describes five common mistakes that

1:11.0

people make when trying to put pornography behind them once and for all. Again, that's pathback

1:14.8

recovery.com. And I love getting your questions. I love getting comments. I love getting feedback.

1:20.9

And you can send any of that to contact at tonyoverbay.com or if you stop by my website,

1:27.4

tonyoverbay.com, there's a contact form. So fill that out and you can send me

1:32.2

questions, comments, if you would like to be a guest on the virtual couch, if you

1:35.7

would like for me to be a guest on your podcast or come speak to your group or

1:40.4

training or that sort of thing, please reach out again Again, contact at tonyoverbay.com.

1:45.7

And please stop by Tonyoverbay.com. Sign up to find out more about all kinds of fun,

1:51.6

exciting things that are coming up. And because, drum roll, please, my friend Preston Pugmire

1:56.6

and I have completed the filming of our magnetic marriage course, and you will be hearing about

2:01.2

it soon.

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