I came across this quote by a gentleman named John Green, and he said, what's the point of being alive

if you don't try to do something remarkable. And I think that in order to do something

remarkable, you also have to become someone remarkable. You know, remarkable people do remarkable

things. And, you know, so there's this kind of battle between what comes first. You know, do you

build yourself

into somebody remarkable, or is it the process of pursuing something remarkable that chisels

you into a remarkable being? And one of the things that I've learned over the years by talking

to really incredibly successful people, fulfilled people. You know, when I go on podcasts

and speak on stages in front of thousands of people or speak on a podcast with millions of people

tuning into it and people ask me what's made you successful in life. My answer is almost

always the same, which is I've failed my way there. I've failed my way there.

There's something motivating about failure rather than being afraid of it, which I was for a long

time. I was afraid to fail. I was afraid to fail with women in relationships, with money, in business,

with my dreams, what I actually really wanted to accomplish.

I was terrified of failing. And what I've noticed over the years is that we can be crippled by the

fear of failure. We cannot take action because we're afraid of some outcome that we've created

in our head rather than being motivated by the sense that when

you fail, you're going to learn. When you fail, it shows you that you are on a path. You're moving

a direction towards something and that there's something that you ultimately need to learn.

And, you know, I would say that for a long time I was a pretty bad loser.

I hated losing. And today I still don't like losing. You know, like when when people in my space,

in my industry are doing better than me, that motivates me. Not because I'm comparing myself to

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