Can Love Survive Betrayal? How to Rebuild Trust and Heal Together | E480

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

YAP Media Network | Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 890 Ratings

🗓️ 27 October 2025

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

When trust is broken, everything changes. The person who once felt like your safest place can suddenly feel like a stranger, and finding your way back can feel impossible. In this episode, I’m joined by Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, trained relationship specialists, speakers, and authors of Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. After a devastating betrayal early in their marriage, they did the hard, courageous work of rebuilding honesty, safety, and connection - not just for themselves, but now for the couples they help heal. We talk about what partner betrayal trauma really looks like, why “just move on” never works, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after betrayal. From understanding trauma’s impact on your nervous system to creating emotional safety and vulnerability again, this is an honest look at how love can truly recover and grow stronger on the other side. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal 01:30 Meet Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith 05:36 The Hidden Addiction and the Moment of Truth 16:20 Beginning the Recovery Journey 27:00 The Reality of Partner Betrayal Trauma 33:20 Why “Just Move On” Doesn’t Work 43:40 How Trauma Healing Actually Happens 49:20 The Blueprint for Rebuilding Trust 58:00 Finding Purpose and True Intimacy 01:00:45 Where to Find Support and Resources What would it mean to feel safe again in your body, in your relationship, or even within yourself? How do we begin to trust when trust has been broken? And if you’re the one who caused harm, how do you face that truth with compassion and courage instead of shame? If this conversation stirs something in you… maybe memories, questions, or a quiet hope that healing is possible… I have a free resource that can help you take the next step. My Communication That Connects Masterclass was designed to help you move beyond pain and misunderstanding, and start building the kind of emotional safety that real repair depends on. Let’s stay connected - I share more insights, videos, and real talk about love and growth every week on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. I’d also love to hear what resonated for you or what questions you’d like me to explore next. Let’s keep the conversation going - let’s talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

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0:00.0	Three years into their marriage, Matthew confessed to a decades-long sexual addiction.
0:09.0	Joanna was devastated, but instead of walking away, they chose to walk through it together.
0:16.0	Over a decade later, they're not just still married.
0:25.5	They're helping other couples heal through the very trauma they once lived. And today on the show, Matthew and Joanna Rabsmith are sharing the blueprint for rebuilding trust, intimacy, and connection after betrayal.
0:36.5	If you've ever wondered, can a relationship come back from the break?
0:41.8	I'm glad you're here.
0:43.3	I'm Dr. Lisa Marie-Bobby.
0:45.2	You're listening to Love Happiness and Success, the podcast for Growth-oriented people
0:50.9	on a mission to develop stronger relationships, more satisfying careers, and more joy.
0:59.4	Joanna and Matthew Ravsmith, welcome to the show.
1:03.7	It's so much for having us.
1:05.8	So we obviously have much to unpack and a powerful story ahead of us.
1:15.0	But first of all, before we dive into that, I do want to create just a little bit more context for our listeners and friends who are with us right now.
1:24.6	Because you are more than just two random people who had, you know, growth
1:30.3	experiences. You are also helping professionals. Joanna, you are a licensed marriage and family
1:36.6	therapist like I am. You are a certified clinical partner specialist, an EMDR practitioner, which I think is highly significant.
1:47.8	And Matthew, you're also a professional certified coach through the ICF, which I would like to highlight.
1:55.3	I have talked on the show before about coaches and like, you know, careful there. But professional certified coaches have
2:03.1	gone through hundreds of educational hours, many hundreds of experience hours. And it is like
2:10.1	apex coach qualification. And so I just wanted to say that out loud. So people aren't like, ooh, coach.
2:18.2	Because I think that there can be, you know, feelings about that.
2:21.8	Because not everybody is as qualified as you are.
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