Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through

Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 11. Stephanie, welcome to the program.

Thank you, Dr. Laura. I give you a brief background of my situation and then my question.

Background.

I was married to a verbally abusive bipolar man for 20 years by the time we were divorced

and went through separation.

And in the first 12 years of being single after the marriage, I did a lot of work on myself.

I have two children grown in their 40s.

I have a son and a daughter.

My relationship with my son is fine.

I've asked both my kids for forgiveness for my part of not protecting them, not taking good care of them,

and being a very bad example

of what marriage looks like. However, my relationship with my daughter is still stuck in toxic

dynamics. Like when she's upset, she'll blow up my phone with angry texts. She'll belittle me

in front of others and will hold on to a point until she's beat

it to death or I... You're being a pansy. I used that word in the last hour. You're being a pansy parent.

Well, in no way. I don't care how guilty you feel or how stupid or weak or whatever you want to call

what happened in that marriage, whatever it is that you look at it as, that does not justify

her behavior. She's taken over for your ex-husband. Correct. I totally agree. And there's no way you should permit that. If you're standing in a room and she's misbehaving, if it's her house, get out. If it's your house, tell her, this is my home and I will not be insulted and dissed in my own home. If you're on the phone, I'm sorry. If you want to have a conversation

with me, I'm willing to do that. If you're just going to yell and scream and do stupid stuff,

I'm hanging up, so don't call me until you're willing to be civil. You have to stop coming

from the guilt place. Okay. Well, then my next part of my question plays right into that, where I need guidance.

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