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Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Can A Woman Make The First Move?

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 29 July 2023

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

Can a woman make the first move in a relationship?  This is a question that’s always on my radar, because I know it’s going to come in about every single Q&A session I have – and let’s be honest, it’s a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms. But it’s a topic that’s holding a lot of women back and it’s about time we had this conversation on the podcast. Who Should Make The First Move? For many years, the majority of people would have answered no to this question, saying that a woman shouldn’t make the first move in a relationship. Some people said it wasn’t their preference for a woman to initiate a relationship. Others said it wasn’t biblical. Still today, 35% of readers that I polled on the blog believe that it’s not okay for a woman to initiate a relationship. But I respectfully disagree.  There are four reasons why I think it’s totally okay for a woman to make the first move in a relationship, and today on this episode of the podcast, I’m going to break it down with why I think it’s perfectly okay for a woman to take initiative and make a move. With a few exceptions that I’m going to cover, as well as a few things to be on the lookout for that signify a healthy relationship. Whether you’re a male or female, you don’t want to miss Episode 018 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers.  Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. Upcoming Events: Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! TONIGHT, (July 28th, 2023) at 8:00 pm EST, I am hosting a special 30’s Single’s Night Out, and on Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. 30’s Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another single’s mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE.  Learn More About Singles Summer Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

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On the beach. Hey everyone. Welcome to the Love and Relationships podcast, a hotline style show where people call in with questions about love,

0:55.5

sex, dating, singleness, and marriage, and mental and emotional health. I'm Deborah Felita,

1:01.1

and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid, unscripted conversations where I answer your questions

1:07.2

in short, bite-sized, practical answers. For those of you who don't know me,

1:12.7

I'm a licensed professional counselor, relationship expert, an author of six books. I also run the

1:19.1

popular relationship advice blog, True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message

1:24.7

that healthy people make healthy relationships.

1:28.6

If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it by voice memo to

1:33.1

Debra at truelovedates.com or submit it on my podcast page, truelovedates.com slash love and relationships.

1:41.4

And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes.

1:45.0

So let's get started.

1:48.7

I don't know if you've heard, but it is singles summer.

1:52.8

Over the past few weeks, we have been celebrating and encouraging Christian singles

1:57.2

with all kinds of singles events, mixers, devotionals, groups, and so much more.

2:04.2

I truly believe that if we want to make a dent in the divorce rate, we have to start by getting

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