Can A Woman Make The First Move? On Women Initiating

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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🗓️ 6 November 2018

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Can a woman make the first move in a relationship? This is a question that’s always on my radar, because I know it’s going to come in about every single Q&A session I have – and let’s be honest, it’s a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms. But it’s a topic that’s holding a lot of women back and it’s about time we had this conversation on the podcast. Who Should Make The First Move? For many years, the majority of people would have answered no to this question, saying that a woman shouldn’t make the first move in a relationship. Some people said it wasn’t their preference for a woman to initiate a relationship. Others said it wasn’t biblical. Still today, 35% of readers that I polled on the blog believe that it’s not okay for a woman to initiate a relationship. But I respectfully disagree. There are four reasons why I think it’s totally okay for a woman to make the first move in a relationship, and today on this episode of the podcast, I’m going to break it down with why I think it’s perfectly okay for a woman to take initiative and make a move. With a few exceptions that I’m going to cover, as well as a few things to be on the lookout for that signify a healthy relationship. Whether you’re a male or female, you don’t want to miss Episode 018 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, friends, welcome back to the Love and Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Feleda,
0:23.1	and I'm so excited to have the chance to have these candid conversations with you about love,
0:28.6	sex, dating, singleness, and marriage. For those of you who don't know me, or if you're tuning in
0:33.5	for the first time, I'm a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship issues.
0:39.3	I also run the Relationship Advice blog, TrueLovDates.com, reaching millions of people with the
0:45.0	message of healthy relationships. And as you'll find out about me, that's something I'm really
0:50.1	passionate about. If you've tuned into this podcast for a while, you know that it's generally
0:54.7	a hotline style podcast, meaning people call in with the relationship questions and we talk
0:59.8	through them on the show. But because I've received so many of your questions, I decided I needed
1:06.4	to do these little mini episodes where I'll be taking the questions that you've sent my way via
1:11.4	email or voice memo and I'll be answering them in short, practical, bite-sized answers in these
1:18.0	mini episodes. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, make sure to send it
1:23.2	via email or voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com and I'll do my best to get it answered on one
1:29.7	of the episodes. So let's get started. So I got a question from Margaret asking, Deborah,
1:39.8	I've been advised that you should let the man pursue you or just give him hints to let him know you're
1:45.3	interested. But I've been asking myself, how much is too much when it comes to giving him hints?
1:51.2	And I don't know what to do. Please help.
1:54.4	Oh, Margaret, I hear you, girl. I definitely grew up in the culture that I was also taught that I needed to wait and let
2:05.6	the man pursue me first. It was this idea that women should never initiate a romantic relationship.
2:14.8	And at the time for me growing up, there were some extreme views going around about
2:20.6	this, especially in the Christian culture about what the male-female relationship should look like.
2:27.3	I actually remember reading a book from one of my favorite authors that basically said a woman
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