Staying committed to our marriage does not have to be a white knuckling experience. Amen. God has called us to live and covenant with one another and we don't have to sit in this idea that maybe we should have a backup plan. Maybe you know if it doesn't work. I feel like we're just having too many fights. I don't know that we're in love anymore.

That's not the way that we're called to live in this covenant of marriage. So we're here to say it's time to burn the backup plan. Burn the ships. As you'll say as we say.

We will talk about what that means on the other side.

Burn the boats as they say. Burn them down all the way down to the depths of the sea so that you have no backup plan. You have no

no, no, it could be a scary thing. I think for some people because depending on where you're at and your marriage you might be thinking maybe it's time to throw in the towel and I'm watching this podcast or I'm listening to this podcast. I'm watching this video because I'm kind of at the end of myself. I don't know

what else to do. How do we move forward in such a hard time in our marriage. And we're saying the first thing that you need to do is burn the ships. Burn that backup plan. So this is what gets me about this topic is that there's no couple stands at the altar.

Yeah. On their wedding day and says I do unless no one says that. I do until I do unless you kind of no one says that and no one would even overtly admit that even years into their marriage or at least very few people would.

But we live like it. And here's the thing we're talking to Christian couples. Okay. So here we are. We say we we submit ourselves to the authority of scripture.

We're going to let it tell us how to live our lives. It's radically countercultural. But that's what the Christian sort of faithful Christian does ideally.

And no Christian thinks that in there it consciously in their minds that they can kind of they at any point they could back out of their marriage if they decide to but subconsciously.

I think a lot of Christian couples kind of live with that in the in the back of their mind that it's not really working. So maybe there's a way out. Maybe there's another path. And by God's grace my dad.

One of the things that he just pounded into my head as a young man was like marriage is until death until death to you part. So when we got married at 20 and 21 years old.

I knew like this is it. I'm going to die in this relationship. So loving and so life.

You know what I think it was a grace of God that I didn't have kind of cognitive ability to understand like what you know 60 plus years of marriage would look like if God allows us to live with 80 plus.

I didn't understand but you know standing here you know we're almost 20 years into it now and I'm thinking I couldn't I couldn't imagine having a marriage that had any backup plan where I could just say you know what this is actually a little tougher I'm going to get back on that ship and I'm going to go back out to see.

I'm going to find another made another fair seafaring maiden not the only seafaring made it for me.

I think the one of the big points we want to just start with today is that God is faithful to sustain you in your relationship.

Wherever you are whatever you're facing he is faithful he's given us his word as a guide as instruction as authority.

And this marriage covenant that he has allowed us to engage in with each other is is a way for us to experience freedom and to let go of the backup plans because the backup plans are not his his ideal plans and we see that in the Bible and we are going to continue going through this conversation after we talk about a few things.

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