Hey y'all welcome back to the Don't Mom Alone podcast. I'm your host Heather McFadian and this is the place where I get to walk alongside you and connect you with people and resources so you know that you don't mom alone. And in this episode number 374 I am welcoming to the show Kimberly beam homes.

So we were birthed from a couple that like they went through it and they figured it out and that is in the DNA of what we do and continues to be so we are passionate about the hopeless we are passionate about when you don't know where else to turn what do you do we want to step in and use what God has given us to help.

Kimberly is the CEO of a ministry called Marriage Helper. It's one that her dad Dr. Joe beam started years ago from his own restoration story. He had been divorced for three years.

You're going to hear more about that in this episode. So I want to encourage you wherever you are on your marriage journey. Sometimes this topic hits a nerve that's real tender and you're right in the midst of a challenge.

I really want to connect you with Kimberly and her team because their whole goal is to help couples build strong relationships.

They are passionate about situations that feel hopeless and even in your marriage if it's a if you are feeling like it's solid that you can even grow a healthier marriage.

It isn't simplistic, but there are simple places for us to start and she's going to get into that in this episode real tangible perspective shifts things you can do.

I loved what she shares at the end of this episode. So I hope you listen all the way through. All right. Let's get right to it. Here we go.

Kimberly, welcome to the Don't Mom Alone podcast. Heather, I am super excited to talk with you. Thank you for having me.

Well, moms both don't want to talk about marriage, but really know they need to and they know marriage is important in the parenting years, but they feel at a complete loss and everybody stressed out and everybody's at each other's throats.

And so I do try my best to connect moms, dads with great options. And when your ministry popped through my email, I was like, this would be a great resource for people wherever they are in their marriages.

But before we get into helping them out, I'd love for you to take a second and introduce your own family, your own spouse and kiddos.

Yes, absolutely. I am married to Rob. We have been married for coming up on 12 years, which is so crazy to me.

Oh, it's so crazy to me. But yes, Rob used to be in the military and then after that, he was in law enforcement. So I've definitely had that as part of, you know, being a wife of some of that heaviness that he's had to go through.

And then when he got out of both of those things is when we really decided, you know what, we are ready to start our family now that we're not moving around all of the time and so on and so forth.

The crazy thing though is when Rob and I first started dating, actually on our very first date, I had just gotten home from a mission trip to India.

And on that first date, I said to him, Rob, one day I am adopting kids from India. So if you're not cool with that for the future, like there's no need for us to go to continue this any further, which really looking back, I think how crazy was I to say that to this guy on literally our first date is goes to get everything you're supposed not supposed to do talk about kids on first date.

But he was like, okay, cool, like I'm good with that. And so that is what we always knew we were going to do. And we had talked about it for several years, just thinking about all of these things right. And then finally when the time came, we started that adoption process, which could be its whole own podcast.

We could talk about the military marriages, we could talk about adoption, you've got all the things. There's a lot. Yeah, we've definitely been that couple that's like, let's just dive headfirst into everything right are literally literally our first two months of marriage, we got married, he finished flight school, he had his final check ride the day after we got married in flight school.

And the next month we moved halfway across the world to Korea, like this is how we operate and we're not spontaneous people, but we take on big things and we're just like, okay, so when we started the adoption journey, and the adoption process, throughout it, we both began to say to each other, we really feel like God is putting two kids on our heart.

And we never stipulated to our adoption agency, like kind of like what God was putting on our heart specifically, like we always thought it would be a boy and a girl, we always had these certain ages in mind, but we never said this is what we want.

And lo and behold, the reference came through that referral came through and it was what we had been visioning and picturing that God had been placing on our hearts.

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