Okay, welcome back to another episode. We were sent in this dilemma and yeah, the girl basically asked for our advice hello girls i've been a long time

fan of your podcast and most of your opinions and advice has helped me a lot while navigating

my 20s and this is why i thought you'd be the best group to turn to for some advice regarding

my current situation that is very lovely that's just very very, very lovely. I'm touched. I'm just tired. I'm touched. Oh, that's so nice. Real. Hi. Hello, friend. I won't say your name just in case you don't want me to. So I plan on moving in with my white boyfriend and I don't know how to tell my... Oh. I don't have to tell my African mother.

Oh.

Oh, we're going there now.

You didn't even...

Wade in the water.

Wade in the water children, wait a...

What kind of a little?

I don't even know what this has to do but anything You know you know sometimes when you do race and then like just equality and just together anyway Isn't it a slavery Yeah I know No it's Mary Mary No I know no one no, but originally how it's normally used to. The way that it's used, our thing.

Anyway, Shaft.

I don't know. I know why we went there, but we went there, yeah. For real. When Lord's brilliant. Also, I have to apologise about my reading just because my contact lenses are acting off a bit. But anyway, it's going to try. I'm 24 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years.

We decided to take the next step and move in together.

It also felt like the logical thing to do since I'll be

resuming uni lectures and looking for a part-time job in the city when we plan to, in the city

we plan to move to. My relationship with my mum is nice, but at times toxic. So I would have

eventually moved out even if my boyfriend wasn't in the picture. In addition, my mum is nice, but at times toxic. So I would have eventually moved out even if my boyfriend wasn't in the picture.

Okay.

In addition, my mum is a single mother of three and she depends on my sister and I to help her out with rent and on me to drive her around when needed.

That's why I decided not to move too far in case she needs me to drive her to certain places.

Very thoughtful. Very nice. But knowing her, she will probably seize the car from me. I didn't read this far, child. Hold on. I didn't read this far, child. Is it your car or hers? How can she seize it? You know, her African person. Fam. African friends can just see name. Whether your name is on it or no. Whether they drive my view or not. You submit your phone at 10 p.m. Literally. She submits your phone. Yeah. Damn. However, I still feel guilty for the rent even when knowing my sister will be able to cover for it. Did you guys get that? Yeah. Okay. To cut this short, since all African parents are traditional, my boyfriend and I decided to get engaged in quotation marks. Oh, okay. And then let our parents meet. Oh, like, they're not actually engaged, but they're just saying that they're engaged. Oh, well, I'm just reading it as I, as it's written. But, yeah. And then let our parents meet before announcing to her our intention to move in together. But I know she might still refuse to accept my decision and most probably disown me for it. Hmm? But I have made up my mind. Oh, we need to speak on this, child. I guess my purpose of writing this post is to know your opinions on the matter. Since you are all more likely to understand what it's like to have African parents and get where I'm coming from. P.S. We do have plans to get married in the nearest future, but we both don't think now is the right time. Thank you and I really hope to hear from you girls soon. Oh, first of all, I appreciate it. Yes. And I responded to her

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