There's a lot of bad advice out there for men on the internet.

And it frustrates me because being the father of two boys and running one of the largest

youth programs for young men in my city, I've seen the results of every kid being one caring

adult away from becoming a success story.

So I'm going to explain principles, although some are controversial, that are important

for any young men to understand.

Welcome to the Martel method.

I went from rehab at 17 to

building a $100 million empire and being a Wall Street Journal bestselling author. In this podcast,

I'll show you exactly how to build a life and business you don't grow to hate. And make sure you

don't miss anything by subscribing to my newsletter at Martel Method.com. Number one is you're responsible

for your life. No one's going to do it for you. is you're responsible for your life. No one's going to do

it for you. No one's coming to save you. No one's going to give you anything. You work or you suffer.

It's your reality. I have a lot of kids, 18 to 20 year olds that are reaching out, messaging me,

asking me for a job. But they never ask themselves, maybe I should do the job first. Maybe I should

present my skills. Maybe I should be an example of what I'm doing. It's almost like they want me

to save them. You have to take control of your life and do the work before anybody's going to pay you

for the work. I think most kids are taught this in school. They're taught if I can

just show up, sit in a classroom, not even do the work, I'll get a passing grade. There's this new rule I found out in one of my kids' schools. They don't fail kids anymore. It's like not a thing they do. They'll give them extra support. They'll keep them around for the summer, but they don't fail kids anymore. And then they come into the job market wondering, how is my employer going to train me up and give me all the skills that I need to do the work? If you want to be in sales, if you want to be a video editor, if you want to be a marketer, go learn the skill, show that you've got it. You can do it. If you think somebody else is going to do it for you, you're missing the plot, which brings us the number two, which is do what's unpopular. If you want an extra ordinary life, you need to be extra. It's very simple for me. Whatever your friends are doing, you have to do the opposite. It sounds crazy, but if your friends are going out on weekends,

do the opposite. If your friends drink all the time, do the opposite. If everyone around you is watching

TV after school instead of working on bettering themselves, do the opposite. There's no way that

you're going to be somebody that stands out by not doing things that stand out. So if you look around and everybody's doing the same thing,

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