Hi I'm Yui Shoe and I'm Julie Kraftchik. We're active daters turn dating sociologist.

Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.

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Hello. podcast. with you all it's like having one big brunch party except we dish about your

burning dating questions because we know you have so many of those don't you a new

one every week it keeps us on our toes, that's for sure. The question for today, we'll get right into it, is, is it a red flag if you're dating someone who texts too much? And for more context our listener that wrote in said

I've been talking to this guy on Hinge and we have a first date set up. Really

excited and it's been great conversation so far. That being said, he is a little

text heavy. Every day he's been sending a good morning text, how are you doing, which in theory is nice, but we haven't met in person yet.

Is this a red flag and should I continue to go on this date

that we have planned?

Let's take caution when we use the term red flag. A red flag is when

you've expressed something to this person that you're talking about and they still did not respect your

boundaries did not respect your needs. This does not sound like a red flag

yet because you have not expressed anything. This feels like a very much of an internal dialogue and now it's a public dialogue on brunch talk, but have you talk to him about it.

This question of too much texting, too little texting, it's so relative and subjective.

What he's doing to you, what he's texting you, he probably thinks he's doing the minimum.

He's like, we really don't text that much and to you it's like so much he's

texting all the time. It just feels like an opportunity for alignment and to communicate.

Yeah, I think the other piece is that no one knows what rules were all playing when it comes to dating.

Yeah.

He might be thinking like I need to text this person, this is how you date, this is what I need to do to show I'm interested.

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