#brunchtalk: How Much Advice Is Too Much Advice?

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 23 November 2025

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

Ever ask your partner for support and end up getting a TED Talk you never requested? We’re exploring how unsolicited advice shows up in partnerships, why it can feel so invalidating, and how well-meaning intentions can still land the wrong way. We're discussing the difference of wanting to help and overstepping, how to to not overstep boundaries (especially in a world with ChatGPT where everyone can be the expert on anything!), and why sometimes, just being there is the best support.

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