#brunchtalk: Can Your Relationship Work If Your Friends Dislike Your Partner?

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 26 November 2023

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Nothing is more uncomfortable than when friends don't approve of your relationship, but is it a dealbreaker? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing what to do if your friends don't like your partner – or your partner's friends don't like you. We discuss when this becomes problematic versus something you can get over, how to best handle the situation to try to get closer, and ways you can move forward if the relationship with the friends is beyond repair. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Our FINDING YOUR PERSON program is open for a limited time from 11/24-12/3 at findingyourperson.com Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode is sponsored by: Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50 Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateable Bearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.com Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Meeting People IRL Kickstarter - CLOSES August 31st and get $10 OFF now through then! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi I'm Ewie Schu and I'm Julie Kraftchik.
0:02.8	We're active daters turn dating sociologist.
0:05.4	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:09.0	Welcome to the dateable podcast. Datable's, welcome to Brunch Talk, our Sunday edition where we answer your burning
0:19.7	dating questions that you've all sent in.
0:22.4	This week's question, can a relationship work if you and
0:26.1	your partner do not get along with each other's friends?
0:29.2	Oh, it's a good one. Okay, for more context, in the beginning of my relationship I tried to make a
0:35.4	friendship work with my partner's best friends girlfriends but was never truly
0:40.7	treated with any real respect or decency. At first my partner was
0:45.2	somewhat aware of what was happening but never defended me even if he did
0:49.4	witness mistreatment. Because of the way I've been treated my friends now don't like my partner.
0:54.7	Hmm. Help. Well help indeed! It's such a terrible feeling when you don't like your
1:01.9	partner's friends or you know that they don't like you and there needs to be a certain level of harmony.
1:07.8	You don't all have to be BFFs.
1:09.9	Before a relationship to work, you have to be in harmony with each other.
1:15.2	And this is really a chance to be an adult about it.
1:19.9	I think to really step up and to rise above. Have a sit down with your partner about the conundrum that you're having and then bring in the friends. I always love one-on-ones, bringing the friends one at a time to really walk them through some of the
1:34.9	concerns some of your hopes and dreams for how you continue forward. How much more mature
1:41.6	is that than the retaliation route, which is, well, if you don't like me, I
1:46.2	will like you. I'm going to now tell my partner not to hang out with you. That's never a good
1:51.2	recipe because you're going to build up resentment, your partner will build
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