My entitled Brother-in-law is constantly criticizing me for my job, claiming that my work in life has no value to society or my family.

But after he said that, I saw Red, and I snapped back at him in a way that I've honestly never done before in my life

airing out dirty laundry that he has going on with my sister and essentially

humiliating him in front of my entire family and right now as a result my family is very upset with me and at this point I seriously don't know what to do here's what happened

so I'm at my wit's end with my brother-in-law for the sake of the story we'll call him David.

David is not his real name. For reference I work in environmental

advocacy, a field I'm deeply passionate about, but he constantly

belittles my career and efforts. At every family gathering, he makes snive remarks

about how I'm just hugging trees or living in a fantasy

while he's in the real world making real money.

I've tried to brush it off or engage in constructive conversations, but he doubles down, making

me feel small and invalidated. It's probably just a joke for him, but it can get really annoying.

Last week we had a barbecue over at our parents

and it was supposed to be a peaceful gathering.

David started on his usual tirade,

but this time he went further,

criticizing the effectiveness of environmental work and mockingly suggesting that I contribute nothing of value to society or my family.

And when he said that, I saw Red. It wasn't just a jab in my career anymore as it felt like an attack on my character and my values

So I snapped I called him out in front of everybody accusing him of being narrow-minded

Ignorant and this is where I may have went wrong, but I also told him

how I know my sister is unhappy with him.

I won't say things in detail here, but I have blurted out a private issue that they have.

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