Suddenly you get hit by this like awful sadness and I remember just like bursting into

tears in the streets in the subway. In the summer of 2013, Lam Toevo was heartbroken.

Like I was a walking Noah Baumbach movie, you know, like I was just like sobbing openly everywhere that's just like

snot dripping down my face.

Lom had just asked her husband for a divorce.

They'd been together for four years, married for just under two,

and she was the one who ended things.

But I loved the man, right?

Like I really, really did.

And I think the biggest thing was that when you believe so much in a story that is marriage, right?

And you get divorced.

It's kind of like you're taking away a faith.

Right.

I don't know how it's like to lose your religion,

but that's what it feels like.

Yeah, it's like you're mourning these larger ideas of how you thought life should unfold.

Yeah. And that can feel shattering.

Yeah, and then you have to be like, okay, who am I now?

How do I reconfigure that and how does it look?

Because as shattering as breakups often are they can also be an opportunity

a reset that can spin your life in a completely new direction.

I'm Marie Mechrease and welcome to this is uncomfortable.

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