Brené Brown Says You're Doing Feelings Wrong
10% Happier with Dan Harris
10% Media, LLC
4.6 • 12.9K Ratings
🗓️ 21 December 2022
⏱️ 49 minutes
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Brené Brown has found that most people are only able to identify three emotions: happy, sad and pissed off.
In this episode we explore how better understanding the full spectrum of your emotions, rather than drowning in them, can become an upward spiral.
Brené Brown is the author of six #1 New York Times bestsellers. Her latest book is Atlas of the Heart, which is also the name of her HBO Max series. Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston and a visiting professor in management at the University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. Her TED talk on the Power of Vulnerability is one of the top five most-viewed TED talks in the world, with over 50 million views.
In this episode we talk about:
- Why she decided to map the 87 key emotions and experiences
- How she was deeply influenced by the Buddhist concept of the "near enemy"
- Why she no longer believes it's possible to read emotions in other people
- And why meaningful connections require boundaries
Content Warning: This episode contains explicit language, but a clean version of the episode is available at tenpercent.com and on the Ten Percent Happier app.
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| 0:00.0 | This is the 10% Happyer Podcast. I'm Dan Harris. |
| 0:11.1 | A male friend of mine once made a funny comment about how his wife, who was also a friend of mine, had helped him overcome what he called emotional imbecility. I love that phrase. His wife had |
| 0:23.6 | apparently helped him get better at understanding what he was feeling, why he was feeling it, |
| 0:28.6 | and then how not to be yanked around by said feelings. Now, I'm definitely not accusing anybody |
| 0:34.5 | listening to this show of emotional imbecility, of course. |
| 0:50.3 | But it is worth noting that my guest today, the great Brunet Brown, did some incredible research in which she found that most people are only able to identify three of their emotions, happy, sad, and pissed off. |
| 0:56.6 | In her most recent book and accompanying TV show, Brayay makes a compelling evidence-based case for getting better acquainted with the full spectrum of your emotions. Instead of emotional |
| 1:02.9 | imbecility, she uses the term emotional granularity. She says, and I fully agree with her here, |
| 1:08.5 | that the better you understand yourself, the better you will be at surfing rather than drowning in your emotions, and the better |
| 1:15.7 | you will be, therefore, at relating to other human beings. |
| 1:19.6 | And given how important relationships are to our own flourishing, this can become an upward spiral. |
| 1:25.9 | Rene is the author of six number one New York Times bestsellers. |
| 1:29.1 | Her most recent book is called Atlas of the Heart, |
| 1:32.0 | which is also the name of the five-episode HBO Max series |
| 1:35.2 | that debuted in March of this past year. |
| 1:39.0 | Bray is a research professor at the University of Houston |
| 1:41.6 | and a visiting professor in management |
| 1:43.4 | at the University of Texas at Austin visiting professor in management at the University |
| 1:44.5 | of Texas at Austin McComb School of Business. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, |
| 1:49.9 | vulnerability, shame, and empathy. She hosts two weekly Spotify original podcasts, unlocking us and |
| 1:56.4 | dare to lead. Her TED talk on the power of vulnerability is one of the top five most viewed |
| 2:01.9 | TED talks in the world with over 50 million views. In this conversation, we talked about why she |
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