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like to hurt my older, hurt my older sister's feelings as little as possible.

Well, then don't talk to me.

Then don't talk to me.

Because there's nothing you're going to be able to do that she doesn't like or want without upsetting her.

There is no way to do that.

You have to mature a bit right now in this phone call and realize if I have the intent to hurt you,

and I call you bad names and I ruin your reputation, I do things to hurt you, Teresa. That's one thing.

But if I say, Teresa, can you just lower your voice? My hearing aids are on high. Could you

just lower your voice? And your feelings get hurt? Well, then you're an idiot. But I didn't intend

to hurt your feelings. There's a difference. So are we going to work on something

to be mean? Or do you have to stand up for yourself and let her experience whatever she

experiences as a result? You need to tell me which thing we're doing.

And I promise I'll help.

I have to stand up for myself.

Okay, then don't do the typical girl thing is I'm afraid to stand up for myself

because then I'll be accused of hurting somebody, being selfish, being mean.

And that's the manipulation that is definitely not

everybody wins. You've got to let your sister have her reaction. Unless you have the intent to

hurt her, I'm sorry if she asks for $1,000 and you don't have it or don't want to

give it to her and you don't. And she says, you're hurting me. Do you think that's a justifiable

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