For years, Tasha Adams would get into these awful fights with her husband about money.

Their finances were in complete shambles, even when they had a solid income.

He would spend the money almost immediately.

I would have to say, hey, the power is going to get shut off or the water is going to get

shut off or this bill is due.

It has to be paid tomorrow, meaning don't spend this money.

But inevitably, her husband's steward would find a way to spend it.

A lot of times on frivolous stuff, like he'd order these expensive custom-made knives from

catalogs.

This was the 90s.

And so he would not tell me until he would say, hey, there's a knife that's going to be

delivered, you know, first thing in the morning, you have to pay the guy $400 at the door.

Very reluctantly, she'd hand off $400 they desperately needed to keep the lights on.

We're making a fuss because if she did, he'd berate her or guilt trip her.

Tell her how she's the one who doesn't manage their money responsibly, even though she didn't

have a job or a personal bank account because he told her to close it when they got married.

Throughout her marriage, Tasha held on to some hope that things would get better, financially

and emotionally.

That one day, the reality might match her expectations.

He knew her husband had a rough childhood, and so she'd often tell herself, he deserves

my patience.

I can fix him.

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