In this episode, I welcome Lulu Johnson.

Lulu and I have been working together for a little bit over a year

and she came to me because of a few reasons,

but really at the root of her pain and suffering was the fact that she

was divorced, two beautiful kids but hadn't been in a healthy loving relationship before and had some idea why she had

definitely had insight into her trauma, she had insight to some of her patterns

but didn't know how to break them.

Interestingly enough when we started working together she said I'm not ready for a

relationship I'm not ready for a relationship and she would always kind of say

that but then someone

walked into her life and someone pretty amazing.

I did an episode already, some of you might remember,

where I talk about why certain people are attracted to or only attract emotionally unavailable people

into their lives, why they feel like they're constantly chasing the wrong

person, why healthy might be boring. I also shared how to break that cycle.

And Lulu is really the inspiration and poster child for learning how to love yourself and also learning how to allow

someone to love you which is part of the process.

And when she met this person, what she realized

was that as she was in it, she was experiencing

these triggers where it would have been so easy for her to completely sabotage it because if you don't believe that you deserve it

then you're going to look at someone and be like what's wrong with you that you want to be with me?

Or you'll just go fall back into old patterns,

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