Breaking Free from Love's Desperate Chase & Finding Self-Worth | Jillian Turecki EP 884

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 893 Ratings

🗓️ 7 February 2025

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

"The worst thing you can do is think 'Oh, you're not choosing me? Let me do something to get chosen.' Let me change myself, let me not tell the truth... Stop strategizing to get some Joe Schmoe who you don't even know, who probably is not right for you." - Jillian Turecki Relationship coach Jillian Turecki opens up about the painful reality many face in their search for love. Drawing from her own vulnerable admission of spending two years trying to convince her husband to love her, she explores why we often fall into the trap of changing ourselves to win someone's affection. With profound insight, she addresses the complex emotions that drive us to pursue unavailable partners - from the pressure of biological clocks to the deep-seated fear of being alone. Turecki shares transformative wisdom about the importance of emotional resilience and self-acceptance in dating. She challenges listeners to shift their perspective on rejection, viewing it not as a personal failure but as a natural part of life's journey. Through practical guidance, she illustrates how to balance excitement about new connections with healthy discernment, emphasizing the vital practice of processing enthusiasm while remaining grounded in reality. Her approach offers a refreshing framework for navigating modern relationships without losing yourself in the process.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:09.0	If a woman is going out and dating, right, and they've dated a bunch of different guys,
0:17.0	but they finally meet a guy that are like, oh, this guy's different. And he's,
0:22.5	you know, not only does he like check off all the things on my written down list, but like,
0:28.6	I feel emotionally safe, we're just connected. We have similarity. We have alignment in so many
0:33.5	places. And this could be an amazing relationship for me.
0:42.2	But then a month or two down, he just says, you know what, this is not working out for me.
0:45.1	And he's dating other women and starts to date someone else.
0:53.3	What should a woman be thinking or feeling in that experience when most of the times you hear of women saying that they're devastated, they're heartbroken, that this guy didn't choose them.
0:58.5	Yeah.
0:59.2	And they think something's wrong with them.
1:01.3	Instead, what should that woman be thinking or saying about that situation?
1:06.6	What my dream would be.
1:08.0	What if, you know, Jeannie Nabata was like, what would be your wish for these women?
1:11.2	It would be, okay, cool.
1:13.4	On to the next.
1:15.0	Why is this so hard for women to do that?
1:16.7	It's so hard for people to do that.
1:18.6	Because you thought you met someone and you've, and your, love is a completely irrational
1:25.2	feeling.
1:26.7	It's not rational.
1:28.3	You know, if we met someone, we liked them, you compound that maybe for that woman.
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