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Hacking Your ADHD

Breaking Down Tasks and Big Feelings with Vanessa Gorelkin (Rebroadcast)

Hacking Your ADHD

William Curb

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7781 Ratings

🗓️ 29 December 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

For this week's episode, we are dipping into the archives to revisit a conversation that resonated with so many of you. I'm talking with Vanessa Gorelkin, a seasoned occupational therapist and ADHD coach who's been working in the field for nearly 30 years.

Vanessa holds a Bachelor of Arts degree from Brandeis (Bran-Dice) University and a Master's degree in Occupational Therapy from NYU. She specializes in executive function strategies, emotional regulation, and anxiety management, and she brings a unique perspective to helping adults with ADHD navigate the day-to-day.

In this encore presentation, we discuss:

  • The "Want-to-Do" Gap: Why we struggle even with the tasks we actually enjoy.

  • The Anxiety Connection: How anxiety and executive dysfunction team up to create a cycle of frustration.

  • Strategy Decay: Why tools that work perfectly for a month inevitably seem to stop working.

  • Practical Regulation: How to break down tasks so they feel doable and why you need a "crisis plan" before the crisis actually hits.

Whether you missed this the first time around or just need a refresher on these strategies, there is so much gold in this episode.

You can still find all the links and resources mentioned in this episode on the original show notes page at: HackingYourADHD.com/215

This Episode's Top Tips

1. If something feels overwhelming, try breaking it down into micro-steps. Even something like getting out of bed can be broken into "sit up," "put feet on the floor," and "stand up." In more practical ways, we could think of this as starting out as just opening the document you need to work on, adding the formatting, and starting your first sentence. The idea is you want to build momentum and go with the flow.

2. Be mindful of language; words like "just" and "should" can be damaging. Instead of "I should just wash the dishes," you can reframe it as "I could wash the dishes," and then also if you need a little bit more asking yourself, "What's making this difficult, and how can I work with it?"

3. It's important to have a crisis plan ready before you need it. When emotional overwhelm hits, it's hard to think through what you need. You can pre-plan strategies like a weighted blanket, a favorite show, or calling a friend so you don't have to figure it out at the moment.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Hacking Your ADHD.

0:05.7

I'm your host, William Kerb, and I have ADHD.

0:09.7

On this podcast, I dig into the tools, tactics, and best practices to help you work with your ADHD brain.

0:15.7

Hey team, this week I'm talking with Vanessa Gorlkin, a seasoned occupational therapist and

0:20.0

ADHD coach who's been

0:21.1

working in the field for nearly 30 years. She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree from Brandeis

0:25.6

University and a master's degree in occupational therapy from New York University. She

0:30.0

specializes in executive function strategies, emotional regulation, and anxiety management,

0:34.8

and she brings a unique perspective to helping adults with ADHD navigate

0:38.4

their day-to-day lives. In this episode, we talk about why people with ADHD struggle with

0:43.2

even the things that they want to do, how anxiety and executive dysfunction team up to make

0:47.9

life extra frustrating, and why strategies that work for a while can end up stopping to work.

0:52.9

We also dig into emotional regulation,

0:54.9

how to break down tasks so they actually feel doable,

0:57.3

and why giving yourself a crisis plan before you need it

0:59.9

can make such a huge difference.

1:02.0

If you'd like to follow along on the show notes page,

1:04.3

you can find that at hacking your ADHD.com slash 215.

1:08.8

All right, keep on listening to find out

1:10.5

how occupational therapy can work with your ADHD.

1:19.0

All right.

1:20.0

Well, it's a pleasure to have you on the podcast, and I was kind of thinking one of the best

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