Break-Up Blame, Shock Reactions, Abandoning Fathers, and Victim Shaming
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 8 November 2023
⏱️ 65 minutes
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09:43 Accurately emoting & reacting to 'shocking' content in therapy
30:18 OPP
31:42 Why do parents abandon their families?
38:28 Why do SA survivors feel guilt?
48:35 OPP 2
49:48 Chronic illness & loneliness
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November 8, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | Hey Deservant listeners, I thought I would answer some patron emails. |
| 0:03.7 | This first email is from Patron Marie from Seattle. |
| 0:07.5 | She says, I loved your deep dive on apologies. |
| 0:11.8 | I wish I had been more aware of how to apologize at the |
| 0:15.8 | beginning of my relationship because it might have prevented my relationship from |
| 0:20.6 | becoming toxic. I feel a sense of responsibility in the sense that I could |
| 0:26.4 | maybe have prevented my partner from becoming abusive toward me. In your deep dive you said that victims don't need to apologize to |
| 0:35.4 | their abusers but I would love to hear more about that. My abuser can't be the |
| 0:41.5 | only one responsible for the failure of our relationship, right? |
| 0:45.0 | I wish I could find the extent to which I am to blame because I don't want to be given a free pass, |
| 0:52.0 | and I'd like to grow from my mistakes but where is the |
| 0:54.2 | line I listen to you a lot for about two years now and you have helped me to recover |
| 0:59.9 | end of email yeah so difficult question to answer obviously, but the landscape in |
| 1:07.5 | the discourse that you will typically hear is that if you identify as a victim |
| 1:12.4 | and it's you know believable and I'm guessing that it is, then people |
| 1:16.8 | around you, including some therapists I suppose, will refrain from ever contemplating the notion that you might have been quote-unquote |
| 1:25.1 | to blame for some of the relationship dynamics. By the way when I said to blame I |
| 1:32.1 | thought of to blame I just re-watched Princess Bride. |
| 1:37.2 | And I also watched the remake that was made during the pandemic where all these famous people recreated various different |
| 1:44.8 | scenes from Princess Pride. If you've seen it, it's on the internet, YouTube. And I just love that movie so so much and I love the remake I mean some of it's a little slow anyway so to |
| 1:58.7 | blave and to blame Okay, so |
| 2:04.0 | There are two dimensions to consider Marie one is blame for the abuse which you're never to blame for and the other dimension is blame for the breakup. |
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