Boys, Sex and Masculinity w/ Peggy Orenstein

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 24 December 2021

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

Where do men get their earliest messages about sex and intimacy? Why do they talk about banging / pounding / hitting it (like they’re at a construction site), and how does this conditioning affect your sex life – no matter your gender? Peggy Ornstein is the author of several iconic books on teens and sex, but on today’s fan favorite episode, she joins me to talk about Boys & Sex: a fascinating account of young men as they navigate hookups, porn and relationships, as told by the boys she interviewed. In this episode, you’ll learn how even in the shadow of #MeToo, boys are still confused about having mutually fulfilling sex, while still being a “man.” Listen - when it comes to masculinity, Peggy is an expert. She explains why she doesn’t love the term “toxic masculinity.” She recognizes that men get a confusing message: be dominant, but don’t be too aggressive. Reporting from the front lines of bro culture, Peggy reveals the sex conundrum that men so often find themselves in, and ways we can all evolve to have relationships that are more interesting, more erotic, and more emotionally intelligent. For More Information on Peggy Orenstein: Website | Instagram | Twitter Boys & Sex Girls & Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	One thing you will not learn in a hookup is the skills you need to, you know, create good
0:09.0	sex or the emotional connection you might want.
0:12.7	That's not going to happen.
0:13.7	You will get a warm body, you will get an adrenaline rush, and you'll get a story to tell
0:17.3	your friends, which is in some ways the most important part of the hookup.
0:20.3	It is, right?
0:23.2	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
0:25.1	I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the
0:29.4	conversation around sex.
0:32.4	So where do men get their earliest messages around sex and intimacy?
0:37.0	Why do they talk about banging, pounding, hitting it?
0:40.2	Like they're at a construction site.
0:42.2	And how does conditioning affect your sex life?
0:45.4	No matter your gender.
0:46.9	Peggy Ornstein is the author of several iconic books on teens and sex, but on today's
0:52.2	fan favorite episode, she joins me to talk about boys and sex, a fascinating account
0:57.4	of young men as a navigate hookups, porn, and relationships, as told by the boys she interviewed.
1:04.5	In this episode, you'll learn how even in the shadow of me too, boys are still confused
1:09.4	about having mutually fulfilling sex while still being a man.
1:13.3	Listen, when it comes to masculinity, Peggy isn't expert.
1:17.3	She explains why she doesn't love the term toxic masculinity.
1:21.0	She recognizes that men get a confusing message, be dominant, but don't be too aggressive.
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