One thing you will not learn in a hookup is the skills you need to, you know, create good

sex or the emotional connection you might want.

That's not going to happen.

You will get a warm body, you will get an adrenaline rush, and you'll get a story to tell

your friends, which is in some ways the most important part of the hookup.

It is, right?

You're listening to Sex with Emily.

I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the

conversation around sex.

So where do men get their earliest messages around sex and intimacy?

Why do they talk about banging, pounding, hitting it?

Like they're at a construction site.

And how does conditioning affect your sex life?

No matter your gender.

Peggy Ornstein is the author of several iconic books on teens and sex, but on today's

fan favorite episode, she joins me to talk about boys and sex, a fascinating account

of young men as a navigate hookups, porn, and relationships, as told by the boys she interviewed.

In this episode, you'll learn how even in the shadow of me too, boys are still confused

about having mutually fulfilling sex while still being a man.

Listen, when it comes to masculinity, Peggy isn't expert.

She explains why she doesn't love the term toxic masculinity.

She recognizes that men get a confusing message, be dominant, but don't be too aggressive.

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