My boyfriend left me out of a family trip that he was going on to Japan, as he literally told his family that he doesn't want me to go, while also claiming that I would ruin the trip, because apparently I'm a pain to go on vacation with. And now, after all of it's said and done, I feel so heartbroken that honestly it's making me question everything. And at this point, I honestly don't know what to do. Here's what happened. So I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and this situation has been weighing heavily on me for the past six months. Back in August, my boyfriend's family started planning a trip to Japan. At first, I thought it was just a family trip, but then, weeks later, I found out that one of his siblings' girlfriends was invited. It felt strange that only one girlfriend was included,

but I tried to let it go since it seemed like a family holiday. Two months later, I saw a text

message from his mom. It mentioned me, and his mom said, are you sure she definitely is not

coming to Japan? And he responded by saying, no, definitely not. And you know what? I had no idea

she had even asked me about joining. Well, I was hurt and confronted him about it. And his reaction was to be defensive. He said things like, you're a pain to be around on the holidays. I don't want you there because you'd ruin the trip. And yeah, I told my family, I didn't want you there. He also said, both the other girlfriends were going, but I was the only one left out, and that he was glad about

it. This then led to me completely breaking down, and I went non-verbal for hours, but he dismissed my

feelings, calling me immature for being upset. Now, my reasons for it being wrong was that he lied to me,

clearly lied to his family about asking me, and being completely isolated from his family and other

girlfriends.

Now for context, the girlfriends have been in the family for 10 plus years, and they all live in

the same area and grew up there. Well, I eventually forgave him, even though I still felt terrible

about it. But over the last six months, we've argued about it repeatedly. I just wanted him to

acknowledge how wrong it was and to genuinely express regret or remorse.

But instead, I've only received what felt like empty apologies, saying how sorry he was but with

no action or responsibility. This weekend, he went on the trip and I've been struggling to control

my emotions. The idea of him and his family and the girlfriends having dinner on holiday,

making memories of a lifetime while not including me, honestly feels unbearable. I feel like I'll always be left out, and that I'll have to hear about it for the rest of my life. When I brought it up again, he apologized and said that he had wished he had handled it all differently, but he said he can't change it now. And that he would say he wants me there, but doesn't want to make me feel worse about not being there. But it doesn't feel like he regrets what happened or even wishes that I was there. I'm still haunted by the things he said back then, and I feel like I'm not valued in his life the same way I value him. I'm struggling with whether or not I'm overreacting. Am I wrong to still feel hurt about this situation?

Should I just suck it up and get over it? Or is it reasonable to still be upset after all this time? I love him so much. And there's a lot of reasons I've pushed through these feelings because he is worth it. But I feel like he doesn't really care about my feelings and the effect this situation has had on me and my self-worth. What should I do?

Okay, my God, what is going on right now?

Why are you still with this guy? I don't normally say that, but seriously, this guy does not sound like a good boyfriend. He's clearly not in love with you. If anything, he's just stringing you along. He openly said, you're a pain to be with on vacation. You're just going to ruin it. I don't want you there.

Like, what loving boyfriend in their right mind would say that to their girlfriend? Like, seriously, this guy sucks. If I was in your shoes, I would be immediately breaking up with him. Like, I know for a fact if my family was going on vacation, my girlfriend would be the first person I take on that trip, especially if I really care about her and I'm like, oh my gosh, this is going to be so much

fun for the two of us. If anything, he's treating you like an annoying best friend that he secretly hates instead of your girlfriend who he should be caring about. So truly, I am so sorry that you're dealing with this, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with an immature jerk like this who's claiming to be your boyfriend, because in my opinion, this guy is not that. He doesn't give a crap. He doesn't care about anything that you're doing. And worst of all, it doesn't sound like he has any regrets for not inviting you. It really seems like this is like some kind of half-hearted apology, where he's saying it out of obligation instead of like actually meaning it. And in my opinion, you don't deserve that,

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