Boundaries for People Pleasers: Episode 931
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 4 December 2025
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
Responding to restlessness on the job, plus Dr. Henry Cloud on establishing boundaries, and wisdom with physical touch when dating.
Featured musical artist: Je’kob
Roundtable: Why Am I So Restless at Work?
We all experience restlessness with our jobs or chosen career paths. But how do we discern when restlessness is discontentment or fear versus a sign that we need to move on to something new? Our guests share their own examples of feeling the “career itch” and how they’ve dealt with it effectively.
Culture: Lessons From a Boundaries Expert
Are you a people pleaser? Do you assume you can never say no for fear of disappointing others? Do you resent those who walk all over you, even as you let them do it? Dr. Henry Cloud wrote the defining book on boundaries and joins us with instruction for taking back our lives from our own fear, passivity and boundary busting.
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Inbox: A Word About Touch
Physical touch may be your love language, but guardrails are still biblical and wise, especially with someone you’re dating. What should you know and do to honor God in this area? Counselor Andrea Vidano weighs in.
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| 0:45.5 | This is Lisa Anderson here with you. |
| 0:48.0 | Let me give you a little preview of what's coming up on the show. |
| 0:51.6 | For our inbox, we're going to answer the question, what does having good |
| 0:55.1 | boundaries with physical touch actually look like? One of our counselors will add some wisdom to that |
| 1:01.3 | question. And then for our culture segment, Dr. Henry Cloud joins us to talk about how to have |
| 1:07.6 | good boundaries if you struggle with being a people pleaser. And, you know, |
| 1:11.7 | he's the author of the book Boundaries. We've had him on the show before, but not on this topic. |
| 1:16.1 | So we're like, hey, come on back. So you'll be encouraged by that. Okay, here we are for our |
| 1:21.6 | roundtable. And it is funny that if we're talking about, you know, someone who has been married |
| 1:27.0 | before and we're talking about boundaries. Now, someone who has been married before and we're talking about |
| 1:28.2 | boundaries. Now we're going to talk about restlessness and just feeling restless in life. And I think |
| 1:34.6 | this is one, we often discuss this when we talk in terms of like job and career, which is, I think, |
| 1:40.7 | where we'll land a lot here in this conversation. But I think a lot of it just |
| 1:45.6 | plays into, we were even talking before we started taping about how we're so, everything has to be |
| 1:51.4 | quick now. And even, you know, we want stuff delivered to us and we want to experience things |
| 1:55.9 | or ingest things quickly, you know, whether media or whatnot. So I think this is going to be a |
| 2:00.4 | fun conversation. We have got our dear friends, Jenny, Dave, and Bree whatnot. So I think this is going to be a fun conversation. |
| 2:01.6 | We have got our dear friends, Jenny, Dave, and Bree here. Hey, y'all. |
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