Borderline, Least Favorite Clients, and Pressuring Bob
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 23 January 2023
⏱️ 68 minutes
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00:00 Intro00:15 How can I help my ex that might have BPD?
04:23 What psychodynamic therapy books do Dr. Kirk & Bob recommend?
07:20 How can the MMPI get things so wrong?
14:42 Does Dr. Kirk have any recommendations for someone with Bipolar II & ADHD?
17:03 Do Dr. Kirk & Bob have favorite & least favorite clients?
23:16 How can I feel seen by my family?
24:30 How do I stop being codependent & worrying about my partner's death?
29:21 Does Bob ever feel pressured by Dr. Kirk to be publicly vulnerable?
31:55 How do clinicians approach clients with previous therapy displacement?
40:28 Is rupture and repair rolled in with corrective experiences?
43:42 How is fearful/disorganized attachment style conceptualized?
53:16 Do Dr. Kirk & Bob have advice on starting over after a devastating loss?
57:22 How do I break a feeling of abandonment and emptiness?
59:01 What do Dr. Kirk & Bob think about self-help books?
1:01:54 Do you know any practicing clinicians with personality disorders?
1:05:38 What is the most effective way to treat cluster B disorders?
January 23, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob, I have a bunch of questions here for us and I want to clean house and actually do lighting around this time. |
| 0:08.3 | So, uh, famous last words. |
| 0:10.9 | Hope springs eternal. |
| 0:13.0 | Huh? |
| 0:13.3 | Hope springs eternal. |
| 0:14.5 | Yeah. |
| 0:14.9 | Anonymous says, |
| 0:16.0 | Hi, Kirk and Bob, |
| 0:16.8 | I recently ended a relationship with a woman who I strongly suspect has undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. |
| 0:22.3 | A lot of common patterns showed up like threats, |
| 0:24.8 | false accusations, suicide notes. |
| 0:27.6 | In between her bouts of intense victimization, |
| 0:30.8 | it's interesting to see fleeting moments of self-awareness and apologies for how she treated me. |
| 0:35.7 | Even though I have to remove myself from her life to protect myself, |
| 0:40.0 | I still love and care about her very much. |
| 0:42.4 | I feel so sad that I was not able to provide a corrective experience for her and in the end, |
| 0:47.7 | wonder if she's only ended up retraumatized by me, quote unquote abandoning her. |
| 0:53.2 | She's in therapy for a specific trauma that happened to her, |
| 0:56.7 | but I know she lies in therapy and she deceives in therapy. |
| 1:02.5 | And I'm not sure that anyone is aware of the probable borderline diagnosis. |
| 1:07.0 | Is there anything I can do to help? |
| 1:08.9 | Bob, what do you think? |
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