Borderline Emails #4 - Psychopaths, Infidelity
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 27 May 2026
⏱️ 75 minutes
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00:00 How does BPD affect men?
02:09 Is this psychopathy or BPD?
36:19 Psychopathy in media
43:39 Why are friendships more volatile than romantic relationships for me?
51:35 Betrayal trauma & avoidance
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, deserving listeners. I thought I would continue reading your emails regarding borderline. |
| 0:04.6 | This first email is from listener Sam. She says, Hi, I just found you today through your YouTube channel |
| 0:13.0 | and found out that you specialize in personality disorders. I'm hoping you know of resources or could talk about borderline personality disorder and how it presents in |
| 0:22.4 | males. I'm fairly certain that my dad suffers from borderline, but it's hard to find things that |
| 0:29.0 | focus on men. He caused a lot of unintentional and psychological trauma for me, my sister and my mom. |
| 0:37.1 | I'm just trying to understand him |
| 0:38.5 | since he will never admit that he needs help. And I'm fully aware that you can't diagnose him, |
| 0:44.5 | end of email. Yeah. So I could talk for a long time about this, but in short, what I will say |
| 0:51.6 | is that in my experience and research shows this, that borderline for all people has a wide variety of presentations. |
| 1:02.4 | And that is the same for men. |
| 1:05.7 | But there's a slight anecdotal increase. |
| 1:09.8 | And maybe research finan this. |
| 1:10.9 | I don't know. |
| 1:11.3 | I didn't look it up. |
| 1:11.9 | But anecdotally, I would say that for men, you know, toxic masculinity gets in there. |
| 1:20.6 | Now, there can be women that have this presentation, absolutely. |
| 1:24.4 | But when you have borderline plus toxic masculinity then you have this tendency to |
| 1:31.1 | think you're always right to become more aggressive more dominant but like I said there are plenty |
| 1:38.8 | of women who have borderline and non-binary people who have borderline who are also just as dominant. |
| 1:45.7 | But if there's a slight difference anecdotally, if, you know, the bill curves, then |
| 1:50.9 | among the variation and the wide variety and the distribution among men, with borderline, |
| 1:57.0 | on average, you're going to see a little bit more of a risk factor regarding dominance and |
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