Borderline Emails #3
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 25 May 2026
⏱️ 66 minutes
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00:00 What can you do for someone in denial of having BPD?14:23 Being in relationship with BPD
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, Deservant listeners, I thought I would continue reading your emails about borderline. And in this |
| 0:06.0 | episode, I'm going to focus on the emails that had to do with parents and family and relationships |
| 0:11.1 | regarding borderline. This first email is from patron Banana. She writes, Hi, Dr. Honda and team. I am no |
| 0:18.4 | contact with my mother, who I suspect of having Borderline. I relate completely to your |
| 0:24.0 | empathy with people with Borderline, and although she has hurt me, I can clearly see that she is |
| 0:28.8 | suffering, and I wish I could help her. I would love to hear thoughts about people suffering from |
| 0:33.5 | Borderline who are in denial and scared, who are suffering and refusing to get help, |
| 0:39.4 | and they're closed off to the possibility that they might have mental health issues. |
| 0:43.1 | Thank you for reading. |
| 0:43.8 | Love the pot and everyone on it. |
| 0:45.2 | Patron banana. |
| 0:46.0 | End of email. |
| 0:47.4 | Yeah, it's interesting that when I'm often talking about borderline, I'm often talking |
| 0:53.1 | about people who have some awareness or |
| 0:55.7 | maybe they're in the beginning phase of therapy. But anecdotally, what I would say is that |
| 1:01.8 | the vast majority of people who have borderline do not know that they have borderline. If we talk |
| 1:08.9 | about everyone at borderline around the world, then it even becomes worse, right? |
| 1:13.6 | Because in the United States, we have a lot more access to this information and more access to mental health treatment than in other communities around the world. |
| 1:23.8 | I mean, there are other communities that have equal amounts of access. |
| 1:26.7 | But, you know, when you compare the culture in the United States to other cultures that just don't have this |
| 1:34.7 | in the zeitgeist or the stigma about mental health is further back, you know what I mean? |
| 1:40.9 | So even in the United States, I would say just off the, you know, back of the |
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