So Bob I have an email from a patron in which they're writing in asking for advice about whether or not or how they could break up or end a relationship with someone that they think has borderline personality.

Would you like to talk about that today, Bob?

Yeah, let's do it.

This is the Psychology in Seattle podcast.

I'm your host, Dr. Kirkconda. I'm a therapist and a professor.

I'm Bob Gettle. I'm a practicing therapist here in Seattle and your old friend from grad school.

And it is now 20 years almost to the to like the month that I

graduated. Yep I remember that I graduated. Yep, I remember.

You graduated like, six month before you.

Yeah, and you walked at a different,

there were like multiple, now they do one ceremony a year oh

back then I guess they did like two to okay so you must have walked like in

January or something it was on a January, June.

June, yeah.

And I walked in December, because I graduated in September.

And I still have pictures from that night.

Yeah, it was fun night.

I look ridiculous because I have really long hair.

That's right.

And there's something odd about having really long hair and dressed up in a graduation robe as with my

hair anyway it's it's just it looks odd to me every time I see those pictures I just I'm looking at myself I was like what is happening.

I remember when we met you you used to buzz cut. Yeah. Yeah in graduate school I grew out my hair.

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