BONUS: Since You Asked: Is a Flakey Friend Worth Keeping? Plus: Badly Behaved Kids!
Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch
iHeartPodcasts
4.8 • 2.4K Ratings
🗓️ 2 October 2025
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
We follow up on last week’s advice about who should bear the burden of maintaining connections with parents. We also respond to questions about a group text that’s spiraling into harsh words; a friendship worn thin by years of last-minute cancellations; and a new mother who fears her husband isn’t bonding with their baby. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Would you tell a friend that their kids are behaving badly?
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| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:04.6 | I have a friend and I'm always the one to make the plans. |
| 0:08.3 | He'll often cancel or reschedule. |
| 0:10.5 | I'm wondering if I should take this as he doesn't want to continue the friendship. |
| 0:13.8 | This comes up quite a bit in friendship. |
| 0:15.7 | Who is the glue that brings people together? |
| 0:17.4 | It does. |
| 0:17.9 | This question of who's initiating. |
| 0:19.8 | I always say you can't order people up |
| 0:21.5 | all a cart. There are no substitutions. Hey, Lori. Hi, Gretchen. And hey, since you askers, |
| 0:35.0 | we are here for another round of advice. So, Lori, what are we going to talk about this week? |
| 0:41.1 | Well, we have so many interesting letters, and I think a lot of people will relate to them. |
| 0:46.3 | We're going to be talking about etiquette on a sibling text chain, how to handle an unbalanced friendship, which I think a lot of people can relate to, |
| 0:54.5 | and a parenting dilemma around a major life change. But before we jump in, here is a quick |
| 1:02.3 | update from our listener, Laura. In the last episode, we talked about her question about whether |
| 1:08.0 | it was okay to let her husband be in charge of making plans for his side of the family. |
| 1:13.4 | And here's what she said. |
| 1:14.3 | I really appreciated the advice I got back. |
| 1:16.8 | I think one thing I may have omitted in my original question is also that my husband has a different relationship with his family due to how he grew up and stuff going on with his parents |
| 1:29.5 | when he was younger and things are without getting too into it a little bit more complicated. And so |
| 1:35.2 | part of what I was reflecting on after I listened to the advice was it's about the relationships |
| 1:39.4 | and that maybe we don't need to have the same relationships, |
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