I also have a very different perspective now,

not just from talking to, you know, follow-up guests, specifically about that episode,

but also just like living life and being around more people and just literally giving it time and going not only A, does this not affect my life at all, but B, which is always a great thing, everybody, just to do the litmus test of, does this actually affect my life?

Or am I letting it, am I letting the idea of a thing affect my life when in reality it affects my life?

Not in the least.

And so like that.

But I think now I just come out as like what has become the mantra of this podcast,

which is just like, whatever the fuck you identify is how you identify.

And there are so many shades of gray in all of those identities and they don't mean one thing anyway.

And just fucking let people identify however they're going to identify.

And there are reasons that they have that are personal to them.

And it's totally fucking fine.

And like, you know, like, yeah.

Anyway.

If you, if you, I'm trying to think out of phrases.

If you don't think how somebody identifies, is

authentic to whatever your definition, your personal definition of the identifiers that they are using,

if those things don't line up for you, then just be like, roll your eyes and be like, no, I don't think that. Like, leave it at that.

Because I got used for you. Please use the example. Use the example. Because Lauren pointed out before, this is going to be three weeks old, this example by the time this episode comes out. But, Lauren, you have to be. It's so good. Okay, but this is what's going to be so hard for me to do without you. Well, I'm fucking challenging you to do it in the last episode. No, I'll do it. But it's just so interesting because that is for me the biggest loss of losing you as a co-host is that like like, you really will go places that I'm like,

oh, about, and I'll text you about shit, but then, like, we, yeah, well.

But, yeah, so, I mean, what I am talking about, and this, this will piss people off.

And then Nicole's like, bye.

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